i am there now and trust me reading this made me realize thta i am almost like ur girl, i been hurt cheated on and abuse by my ex and now i a'm with a great guy, my x put me down so much that he had me thinkin all of the above ugly fat etc. all i can say if she is worth it hang on but trust me tell her how u feelin just dont threat about livin or anything like that. just make her feel confident tell her that u love her and there is nothing for her to worry about that u want to stay and if she wants the same things that some stuff may have to change include her with some guys stuff assure her that is ok to be alone sometimes but this dont mean u leave her alone on weekends and evrytime u off. good luck i recognize my problem cuz i wanted to keep my boyfriend so much that i realize i was drivin him away.... listen to the song by usher is called his mistake play it when she is around this is how my boyfriend brought it up to me.....she will understand after this