a good way around this is if it was written into the prenup contract that you could sleep with other women. otherwise expect the to get what you are giving, which doesn't sound like much.

Right on! I know Dr Peitz...well...'know her' in that she is a professor at the grad school I attended. Not sure who Matthew Carroll is, but thanks for the answer!! :)

Have you asked your husband what he'd like you to do?

The fact that you are asking if you are safe from harm leads me to think that there is something about him when he gets mad that scares you. The fact that he has a violent past is concerning. The fact that he is angry with you because you are speaking with a former boyfriend shows he is jealous of that relationship and may be an indicator of controlling behaviors. Abusive men tend to be controlling, jealous (even if no reason to be) and violent. They will also blame the victim for their own aggression. Abusive men (and women too) do not take responsiblity for their own behaviors. Do some Googling on signs of abusive relationships and see if he fits any of the characteristics of an abuser. Educate yourself. :)

The fact that you are expressing concern for the safety and well being of your child early on in your pregnancy is a positive indicator that you are on your way to being a responsible parent. I agree with other comment that you don't have to let him sign the birth certificate. If ex-boyfriend want's to know if child is his or not, then HE can pay to have a paternity test done. IF this guy really wants to be a part of the child's life then he will need to step up to the plate and make some real grown up changes. Additionally, if you two aren't living together, he can take responsibility and pay child support. (This is something boys/men tend to run from.) Let his actions show his true values. As far as you having smoked pot in the past...that is in the past. The doctors and nurses will know if you are continuing to use any kind of drugs when you go in for your monthly visits. Also...and hugely important...when you deliver there will be evidence of THC and / or various other drugs (opiates, amphetamines, etc) in your urine as well as baby's. If you are clean you have no worries...if you use, then Children's Division will likely be called. So stay clean for yourself and your baby! The boyfriend won't have a lot of rights as far as baby goes, esp if you choose to stop hanging around him and his buddies.

Akebulan. In Roman times, either from the Phoenician word afar meaning "dust" or the Berber ifri meaning "cave". The "ca" at the end is a standard Latin ending for places - the same as in AmeriCA. Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_original_name_for_Africa#ixzz1JynQgFBH

Only you can answer that question. Does he have a violent history? Has he ever hit you? Does he engage in verbal abuse? If you are afraid you can always call 911 to have police come to your house. You do not have to answer the door or let him in when he comes by, either.

I think it depends on how much damage was done to brain. There could be loss of language / speech, loss of bodily functions, etc.