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Loving discipline never hurt me.. My mom slapped me, chased me with a broom..  I learned from the experience, I never did the same wrong twice!  Today kids are the boss, their parents are subject to child abuse for a loving discipline slap.  This is wrong IMO.. 

before anyone jumps on the Dr. Spock wagon, please understand the difference between child abuse injuries and mistreatment resulting in sickness and even death-- Please do not relate this terrible thing with raising your children and an occasional 'love slap' as discipline.  We are in a society now where we have school shootings, we have no respect for any authority at school, home or on the streets, kids that grow up understanding that they can get away with anything because there is no discipline-- 'Shaking a finger 'no-no Johnny' does not work. .  Time out doesn't work but a good swift shock to the butt will!  Even across the face open hand, just hard enough to make a slap sound. 

If parents would take back control of their children they will grow up to be outstanding adults rather than the whiners/pouters standing on street corners throwing garbage at police and asking for free handouts.  A loving slap of discipline is not child abuse. Please do not associate love with cruelty-- Or discipline with cruelty.. 

I wish my old man had only slapped me at times.He would use a belt,a stick or anything he could put his big hands on. I admit I was a rebel but his punishments were over the top at times & usually in anger. Still I don't think any emotional damage was done to me.I got over it & vowed it wouldn't happen to my kids.I don't know who gave the do gooders the right to make it illegal tho.My personal opinion is if the milder disipline doesn't work then you have to step up the programme a little bit.A slap....yes.A flogging....No,remember,we love them...they're our kids.

Because it is considered un-necessary abuse. Nobody ever told my mom that.........

Depends where and how hard, a slap on the butt never hurt anyone, for long...........

I had plenty.............lol

The ones who ride the city bus to and from school should be flogged daily . Foul mouths and no respect,no manners ,no discipline. Rude little peckerwoods !!!!!!! To answer your question ,soft hearted feel good law makers said it would be so ,now we live with it until someone says old school ways are better and we dust off the paddle . Simple as that !

Perhaps a smack across the arse should be legal..

Because it,s WRONG.

It is not illegal here, though something that is not encouraged and is in hot debate, though I in no way condone violence or child abuse of any kind, I did give my kids a smack on the bum when they overstepped the limits when they were young, and living next door to 4 very cheeky, screaming and demanding children I wish their mum sometimes would too!!

When l was a lad (so long ago) l had discipline at home and at school and both included physical punishiment.

Nowadays home or school no one is allowed to do this anymore, to my mind the world is a much more dangerous place because of this.

If that was the case when I was a kid my mom would still be in the pokey. She was so quick with the back of her hand. I never seen it coming. I was such a smart ass. My Pop on the other hand would lecture us (my brother and me, for hours it seemed. then when we thought we were in the clear, he would spank us. Shit , I sure miss them, 

I tota;ll;y agree with Vinny. When I grew up, the teacher always carried a long thin stick that he used to point at the blackboard and  if we were not paying attention or talking to someone while he was explaining things we had to hold our hands out, palms up and we got a whack on each hand..Needless to say, everyone paid attention after getting whacked just once,Disrespect for a teacher was another punishment at home wit a wooden spoon. I learned pretty quick what the rules were. When I did not came home on time for supper, the wooden spoon was waiting for me.It only happened a couple of times. Now that I look back, kids had more respect for  other people..To say, that its illegal to slap your children is not helping them. Sometimes its the only thing that helps.

Ducky

My experience was the same...long sticks, wooden spoons....whack!!! Learn to behave or else!

Because it is a form of physical abuse..and physical abuse can get worse over time.  Also, in most cases it is unnecessary. 

I don't think it is necessary, in that there are other ways of disciplining a child. I was never a stranger to physical punishment as a child, but I just don't feel that's the right way of doing things. I think a loss of privileges, or a heart to heart talk is often more than sufficient.

I just feel that we need to remember that a little kid is a person too, and they are deserving of respect, just like anyone else. I just don't get it how someone can look at a little kid as their property to beat on. Most decent people don't even treat their animals that way, why should kids be treated with any less respect?

I was a little hellyan and yes I really think there was no other alternative for dad when I got my butt spanked. Sometimes sitting a little one down in a corner and saying please don't do that anymore just doesn't work . I don't feel I was ever abused, But I can tell you each time I got it and why to this day. The one time I didn't get it and I really thought I was dead, A Deputy sheriff came to "talk to me" I was around 10 maybe 11 years old. My dad looked at my brother and said lets go inside these two need to discuss something.. 1/2 an hour later mom was crying as he read me my rights. That he had to do in front of mom and dad since I was a minor. Maybe watching mom and dad that day was enough, he didn't even want to talk to me. And40 years later that same deputy and I are good friends.

Want to see some slap action, go to Walmart.  I won't say why I think its prevelant there but it is.  I have my opinion. 

Only a small percentage of parents, IMO, don't have the brains to understand the extensive effects physical abuse has on children.   I'm sure many of us understand by living throuigh it what the affects of abuse are.  (spelling?)  The USA writes laws which affect many due to the actions of  very few.

Ducky

caddam..."Want to see some slap action, go to Walmart. I won't say why I think it's prevelant there but it is. I have my opinion."

These are your words...what do they mean???

The use of the strap and cane have been abolished from schools,that is a message in itself that it is a form of abuse.How many parents do you think would tolerate thier child getting the strap or cane at school nowadays, we would be laying charges.

Never did me any harm at home or at school! put it this way never repeated it again so we do learn from it! there is a kid who plays in the street and he is soooo rude abuse and he beats all the kids up the little ones he is just the bully and his mother never says a word to him I think she is afraid of him also hurting his feelings well he got caught with one of these bb guns and guess what it hit the policemens daughter enough said ................

In PA it is NOT illegal to strike your child as long as you leave no permanent marks on them. Source: Lackawana county prosecutors office.

it's child abuse.  it hurts kids, physically, psyhicly, emotionally.  It's oh so disrespectful!  unless the child is engaged in an action that is putting them or someone else's life at risk.  Also how would you like it if you were 6 feet tall and something or somebody came along that was 16 feet tall and they slapped YOU. . . . that's how kids feel, helpless and hurt.  plus in California if you slap your kid somebody can come to your home and take them to the shelter.  And it takes a lot of work to get them back. Court, supervised visits, mandataory parental training.  Rather than hit your kid, find a church you could attend for the whole family.

Any Scots reading this may remember the Tawse. This was standard issue to school teachers until about 1980. I have one in my hand now, it is a leather strap 24" long 1 1/4" wide and split for half its length. It must have made an impressive whack.

It is a form of assault, no one has the right to lay thier hands on any body, let alone a child.There are plenty of other ways to disipline a child.

pythonlover

Would you hit your pet if it is misbehaving ?

Children grow up and tend to return actions like a slap in the face by a person who is 5 times their size, at the time, with an action of revenge that may be far more devistating on the person who attacked them as a child. Time allows resentment to grow into a hideous monster of seething rage and venom, capable of murder by direct action and/or covert hostility.

a slap is different from a spank.

A slap is usually given, because the adult has lost control. Your sending the wrong message.

"You pissed me off, therefore I am going to hurt you." What did the child learn, POOR SELF CONTROL.  You just taught your child to hit  in the face when they get angry. It is never okay to hit a child. There are better proven ways to discipline, and they work. It take more time, but isn't your child worth it? A child doesn't think like and adult, they can't.  If you talk to your child, and not at them, you'll have a better behaved child. If the only time you do talk to your child is through discipline, The parent is the one with the problem, they are clueless on how to be a parent.

Do you know your child's favorite game, friend,color, toy, or clothes?

Do you know his teachers by name?

What bus number does he ride?

How  involved are you as a parent?

To be a good parent you should know everything about your child. That sends a positive message him/her.

You'll understand your child better, and know what level they are on. 

You can not beat sense into a child, you have to teach them.

Hitting a child is cruel and ugly. It scares the kid, he does not trust you anymore. How can you trust someone that would hurt you out of anger? You ever see a mom or dad raise their arm to reach for an item, their kid is standing close by, and the kid ducks? That's called abuse.

You want to control a kid, explain the rule to them and the punishment. They disobey take something they value away for a short time. Doesn't matter, makeup, computer, cell phone,car,bike, outings. You have that power. Use it.

Praise goes a long way too!

It hurts. But I don't get why children can do it and get away with it.

Is not illegal but is not reccommended for all the reasons shown in so many good above answers...

society will make a monster out of your child. i had children services down my throat for 13 years. i was accused of having dirty clothes, never doing housework, lids not having toys, i was accused of the whole kit and kaboodle, every time they came to my house the always found the accusations unfounded. did they leave me alone? no. not till i moved away from that county. i had 5 kids. and they all thought they had allies with children services and they could do as they wanted. you know i had hell to pay with them, thinking all they had to do was accuse me and here they came. i went through hell with these people. you never saw them at the neighbors hous where they owned 6 dogs shitting every there. seems like the always picked on people who was trying to always do the right thing. we were never without food, utilities or the other basics of life. i washed clothes in the bathtub for God sakes. cooked for a small army. i was busy from sunup till i fell exausted in bed. that wasnt good enough. and it all started with just one call and one accusation. they stripped me of my parental rights. thank God they are all grown up now. its a wonder if im not in the loony bin.

Thats why this country is in the shape its in. we have Dr. Spocked them all up to a point of no return, lets not spank or discipline our children anymore lets just be there friends or give them time out.

i have never hit my children,i just think its wrong.i would always try to explain the facts and hope they got the point.there are all sorts of views on this ,this is just mine.

because it doesn't teach them the desired behavior that you are trying to get out of them; or the behavior that's inappropriate. In fact, most parents who hit or slap their kids do so b/c they're angry, not because they're trying to teach them acceptable behavior. Also, when you slap or hit your kid, you're teaching him to slap or hit his wife and / or kids.  So, it creates a viscious cycle.

Some children can be reasoned with, but others can't. I do not believe in slapping (in the face) as I feel that is humiliation of the child and done in anger. But a good spank on the bottom for repeat offenses is a good way to make the point.

pythonlover

So the child that you can't reason with gets the smack on the bottom and he/she continues to misbehave, how long do you keep the smacks going ?