hi, most of times plenty of us try to impose our willing to our kids, others try to make their kids what themself wanted to be. I sujest: first of all try to understand that why she has became far from you. most of time we every day and every time that meet our kids start talking and talking and talking and talking aloud and angry. so in my mind stop talking for few days, till she be surprised. of course it dont mean that dont provide her willings and needs.