wow im sure your heart is  broken   but think about what god say about this and do you love her  and do you want to forgive her like god forgive us  only you can know the the way it will be i cant   tell you why. Should you stay are go but  over 20years married is a long time just ask her way  maybe she will just set down with you and tell  you the store  if you ask her  in a nice way  i hope i was some help  god bless god is good all the time . take care  i hope for the best for you 

he is not home and he has a job to do so he can get home safe   to the family  i know it suck not  being home with the family  it is so hard some guys cant talk about about it and  it just hurts to much becouse  in the army the soldier who are in  iraq become a family and when one get hurt or kill it hurt everyone & to me  the soldier   is a SUPER HREO   he or she dont sleep much2 hrs  a night are eat much  just work until  he cant work  when some come to take hes place and we back home just wait and pray to god to take care and bring the soldier home safe ,ty   a Army wife  rose