You need a lawyer,your legally married, I would assume, and therefore have rights. Unlike myself, I am in a relationship where by I am nothing more then the other woman, even though he's separated, he's still legally married to her. He dies tomorrow, I'd be tossed out on my rear faster then anything. His wife and son would be in like flinn. It's "my" apt. that is my get out of jail free card.I stay at his place out of convienience, and maintain my own place separate from him. as I see it, it's one thing to disrespect me under his roof, then mine , and  wind up with all the memories.

Very good questions, first off we've been together for a couple of yrs. Yes I agree I think he does want his cake and eat it too, as for lack of commitment to me, he's a die hard catholic, and believes strongly in the instution of marriage, till death does one part, and it would be very upsetting to her side of the family should they forgo a divorse.

Yet, interestingly enough I have been labeled a "Gold Digger" by 'his' side of the family including the childern. I don't stand to gain five cents from being in this so called relationship, as it is limited, what with him being married.