hi this is grandma diane  i am so glad there are the others who have found your soul mate.  i posted a comment to  the guy who said my husband was  doing it with someone his own age.  i did want to mention to him . everyone thinks he is ten yrs older than i  . and i do look like merryl streep  just  not the body any longer.    you never know what you have till its gone.  

i can answer this for you  a little.  i have brother in your age group. one did loose a wife a few yrs ago and tthough he says he has no intrest . i know he is lieingl he has no  way to know where to start. he also has no money.  he does not drink any more . so bars are out. and he  was a real home body. so that  leaves him  twitteling his thumbs. another brother who is older   did remarry after one wife  left him .  and  then she died  and so he remarried and this woman   really did a no on  him.  so it left him kinda gun shy. but his biggest reason i think. was  he just had no money after rent and meds and helping his kids.   he has just passed away. and i had tried to get him to date he had so much to offer.   maybe thats it the good ones are gone.  the  third wife left because she was forty and he was fifty and a dibetic   and  with that  things did not hold up. if you get my drift. i would tell you to go for the younger man. i am married to a younger  man  and trust me you are missing out. and then  when you need someone to care for you they are there. men die ten yrs before youl. so why set yourself up to be a widow.    not a great thought to me.   

 are you kidding yourself.  there may be some .  and thoes may have gotten caught. but  i have close acess to  many politicians and the white ones  they are just as  quilty  at things.    and i am white.    i have see it  in both. and i have seen greatness in both.. its just the  ones who do bad stand out but many do not get caught

yes  when i was 12 i had a love that made my heart stop . i dated him all through college, this love is a idolism.   which is a sin.    then i married  young thinking it was love. but i think it was a few things  i thought it was security and independence, we worked as a team we had kids, when he left i really felt nothing. so sure that was not my soul mate.  then i met my current husband. we  were ment to be together.i meet him in detroit in a bar, he was just 18 and i was 28 he has never had a drink. what are the odds, i went to movies and were just friends and i move out of state to texas,  he  came to visit one time over three yr period, and  we stayed friends while he was in school, he talked me into applying for a job in mich over the christmas holiday. if you know anything about   corp america no one hires then.  well i had three job offers for double my pay and a 3000 signing bonus. well it was ment to be. we dated more seriously at this time around. a yr later i was offered a job in fla for double  the doubed  moneyl with another singing bonus. i left with  knowing when he graduated he would  follow. well he ended up in calif.  and took a job there. well something went wrong with his job, he could not keep it as calf you had to be a citizen. he had an amazing law suite but never sued.  you would think this was his only option  he came to fla l he mopped and was miserable as well as il   but see his jmillionaire cousin lived there and offered to buy him a mcdonalds.   he turn away from that and we were married six months later.  as many moves that we made away from each other. god had a plan.   we were ment to be tog.at the time i was very successful and he was just starting his climb in  lifes world of success.   today  this man  that chased me around the world has seen me through cancer, taken care of a daughter who is bi polar like she were his own. and for many many yrs he has loved me even though i have gained  several hundred lbs being unable to work and barley walk being in three car accidents and a terrible fall.   he has the same smile for me when he was 18  and i have such a peace in my heart you can not imagine. we think the same thought although we are such oppsite people. we like the same things,  we  laugh at the same stuff and  cry at the same things,i am so proud of him  and everthing he stands for and is .we share the same faith  which we did not when we marriedl   sharing a faith with someone   brings you to a whole different level.  he is my hero and i am his lady.  i worry about  what will happen to him when i die. i  have even asked a girlfried to  marry him after i am gonel   a soulmate is loving  someone more than you love yourself. but not as much as you love god.

the  thing i have heard if you have too much it can cause kidney stones. i would suggest you seeing a  drug store clerk . your dr., and maybe even a uroligist.