Any child who receives the love and commitment from some responsive, responsible adult - no matter what gender - will have the foundation for a healthy and happy development. In a world where stability and resources are strained, any man or woman who is willing to make that commitment to a child is doing the work of the angels. Of course, that being said, it is always better for a child to be loved by as many people as possible, and I suspect that the loving attention of two parents could be an advantage.

On the other hand, I can think of a number of folks who grew up in two parent homes who are all messed up, and I can think of people I know who grew up in the worst of circumstances and who turn out to be extraordinary people.

The Iranian leaders, as opposed to the Iranian people, are scary zealots who will very soon have nuclear capacity. The Iranian people are far more moderate and secular and modern than their leadership and their media would lead you to believe. I hope the Iranian people are able to curb the zealous aggression of their leaders. We should pray for them - alot.

To me, an attractive woman or a man is one who is confident with who they are, who doesn't need to pretend to be someone they are not, who can laugh easily and at themselves, who are interested in other people, straightforward and kind. Someone who possesses these attributes are always attractive to me, no matter what they look like.

On the other hand, I've known beautiful looking people who are self-centered, uninteresting and shallow.

Seek professional help, please, and try to sort out whether you (I am assuming it is you) are suffering from reactive depression or a chemical imbalance, either of which are treatable, but sometimes treatable in different ways. Depression is a dark, scary thing - when I've suffered those bouts it seems like the light's been turned out - like i was just frozen in a black, black hole. Depression is real and it's physical and emotional. It is not a weakness of character; you can't just will it away. More importantly, depression can be helped. Make a call today; don't wait. Maybe your pastor or a friend or some kind of referral hotline can help you find someone to help. Talk to a couple of people and see who you relate to the best before making the commitment of time.

I wish you the very best. Good luck and feel better.

I am sorry that you are going through this pain; I have been there. But here's the thing: this issue is more about you than about your relationship with him, which if you think about it, has not been stable or supportive for most of the time you've been together. He is pretty much the same as he has always been - he chooses everyone, so he doesn't have to commit, and you choose him, so you don't have to commit. It doesn't mean he's a bad person or that he doesn't care for you - I don't know enough about him to render that judgment; but it does mean he has his own gremlins to deal with, and he won't be capable of a secure committed relationship until he does his own emotional work.

So this drama, as it has replayed itself over and over with this man, must resonate with some other unresolved drama from your past, and if you can sort that out - then you can make some more rational decisions about what you want, if anything, out of the relationship on a going forward basis. Please seek some professional help; the quality of your life and the life of your child depends upon this. If you don't figure it out now, even if you don't go back to him, I promise you, it will replay again in some form in another relationship.

Good luck. It's a difficult journey, but the payoff is well worth it in the end - emotional stability and a little peace. I know it doesn't seem possible now, but I promise you, it will come if you do the work. All the best.