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They can say whatever you want them to say these days.

13 years ago. Rating: 4
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When you make a vow before GOD until death do us part,you are no longer owner of your own body,but responsible for your action,also to care and protect,love her until death.also to love ask GOd to give you the strength to obey his commandments.May God Give You A Happy Marriage! GOD BLESS!!

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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Some people prefer to leave the "obey" out of their vows and use "love honour and cherish"

I always thought it was "love honour and Oh boy"

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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In fine print, one should always read it first. Its some where around LOVE, HONOR AND OBEY!!!

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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it says it in the divorce decree!

13 years ago. Rating: 2
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We intentionally left “obey” out. Also we left out …”from this day forward" to the end was also left out. “Honor” was changed to “Respect” and “Love” was defined more and more until we got a divorce. Now we share household costs, chores, and our personal interests are our own. We have power of attorney over all assets of each other. Tonight she is with a girl friend and I will pick her up tomorrow afternoon. We have no sexual interest with each other and I work on the plumbing, air conditioning and vacuum cleaning maintenance when called out for service. Its a very nice and loving relationship that we all have and I am sure it will continue.    

13 years ago. Rating: 2
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It is in the Religious promise of the woman to love, honor and obey the man....who promises to love, honor, and Cherish the woman. When women ask a man to obey he says no, so some women have refused to say obey and modified the vows in the last number of years (only if allowed by the Minister or Priest, however!!)

Refusing to say obey doesn't stop either of the parties from acting as if they expect HER to OBEY, even if it was changed in the particular ceremony, since timeless (male) history seems to expect it for "his" woman. The Genesis Bible story appears to say that the adult woman was made to be a mate and companion for the lonely, brooding man who was all alone, and perhaps bored with the Garden of Eden, where other animals had mates(?) Biblical history seems to suggest that patriarchy was "normal" for the fallen humans, and woman was blamed for the downfall (sin), although both ate of the fruit together. Interestingly enough, pictures painted by a major artist, paid by the POPE visioned the SNAKE (Devil) with breasts, tempting Eve to take the apple!!

However, human histories did have other tribes, such as the Hawaiian culture of female genealogy (you can always prove who the mother was by birth, and so womwn ruled the ISLANDS FOR CENTURIES, until missionaries brought them the patriarch beliefs,...and sexual diseases which almost killed them off!!

It is obvious that Patriarchy and the idea of men ruling the world and all of its inhabitants...women and animals, all living things, and the Planet, wasn't what the Kind, Loving God had in mind, then or now!!

13 years ago. Rating: 1
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