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SEEN IT.. TEMPORARILY.. ITS TAKES FRM THAT PERSON TO WANT TO CONTINUE IT. I CAN BE HAPPY .. I CAN MAKE HIM HAPPPY. TRUST ME I HAVE ALOT OF PPL THAT LOVE ME HOWEVER I JUS WANTED TO HELP HIM BE HAppier person...ima finish writing tmw,. geting tired/need sleep

I wasn`t game to say that Colleen but I think you may just be correct, looking justification.

You answered your own question "I want a better time" you do not appeer to be mature enough to be married to anyone sorry to say that but I also was married at age 22 long before I was mature enough. Maturity is not a number in your days years alive it is a state of mind. To me again with apology the fact that you send your messages in garbled "today talk" is evidence of your lack of maturity. Write correctly and do not be a sheep to those who want to be "different" but are really all the same> Personal question Was he your first lover in a sexual sense? Could explain a lot.

Sorry you mistook my comments offered to assist you, as crticism of you and every thing about you. We have to deal with the specifics we are given on this site to offer help. To me your specifics are, you are in a marriage you are not happy in, you type your comments in almost illegible wording of a teenager in some groups of today, your spelling is not always correct which to me indicates , probably through no fault of your own, you had at best a mediocre education. this is NOT to offend but to establish a starting point at which to help you.I left school aged 14 years in 1946.

I LIKE THAT.IMA DO JUS THAT.I KNW WHATS BEST 4 ME AND MY DAUGHTER.HE NEEDS TO OPEN HIS EYES.HIS PROBLEM IS LACK OF COMMUNICATING.DOESNT SHARE HIS FEELINGS BARELY.I SUPPORT HIM IN EVERYTHING.HE IS TOO LAZY AND LAID BACK .IM THE OPPOSITE.I THOUGHT MY EXAMPLE WILL BETTER HIM AND HIS MIND FOR HIS FUTURE,OUR FUTURE.I DNT THINK HE IS TRULY READY FOR THIS.EVEN WITH HIM BEING 31.MEN DO TAKE ALONG TIME TO GROW UP.I JUS DNT WANT TO CONTINUE WAISTING MY TIME IN SOMEONE THAT DOESNT REALLY TALK MUCH NOR DONT HAVE MY BACK.IM ONLY 23 YRS AND I WANT A BETTER TMW.I DNT FEEL LIKE HE CAN SECURE US A FAMILY...

thank u but no thank u. i am not completely matured, but not blind. these eyes have been thru alot. me n u are two dif ppl. yes i might sound confused, but jus basically spilling it all because like ureself ppl dnt really listen outside nor inside the box. im ready for commitment but why should i continue waisting my time if a 31 year old man isnt willing to commit after 5 years. u tell me if i am not matured enough. i can work. take care of my daughter and esc.and no he isnt. its alot of love involved . shows alot frm ur behalf. btw have u check the rest of the comments. u think u knw it all.

vinny... i wantee to call it off then ..lol.. but i didnt cuz my parents payed for everything. rings, party, food and alot more..it would of been embarrasing. i knw i should of done it then.. nows its been 5 years later..

You are not clueless you are obviously at your wits end trying to sort out your marriage. The fact that you have admitted to the problem is a start. Now you need to discuss this with your husband. You are sending a mixed message to us when you say "he makes me unhappy" "I am a happy person" "nothing has been done eeh maybe a little something" As for not giving himself time to be a better person when you just said he was a nice person is confusing.Not being facetious but I have heard the phrase " A woman spends 20 years trying to change a man and then says " You are not the man I married"

thanks leeroy.. u have a big point..makes alot of sense.. but if a person that has been spoken to about the same things over and over again and nothing has been done or mayb eeh a lil something..they is a reason y he makes me unhappy.. im a happy person , however has let me d0wn many times.. so far what do u think about that.. and i have given him tme..i knw he doesnt cheat on me, he a nice person but doesnt give himself time to be a better person .. i dnt knw im clueless. five years with a 2 year old girl . same problem frm we were dating at 6 mnths

I don't know if you've ever heard the expression; Don't go into a relationship wanting to change somebody? If you love them for who they are in the beginning it's much easier to get along later in the relationship.

Hope everything works out for you, marriage is a lot of work, if anyone says something different, they are either the rare exception or not being honest.

LOL bluedeath. Some people just aren't meant to be together. She already stated she knew she made a mistake marrying him. That's on her. I'm single, have been since losing my GF 15 years ago. Have not wanted a relationship since and I'm far from lonely. My life is a great one. I'm loving my single life. Will I be alone forever? Probably not but right now, I'm enjoying it. If she's not happy, she's just going to make him miserable. She needs to do the fair thing and leave. One can not find their happiness in another.

Who are you not agreeing with? I took what bluedeath said as sarcasm. Maybe I was wrong.

That's the way I see it too Blue, that's she's looking for people to validate her wanting to leave.

I agree. I'm not knocking marriage or any kind of relationship. I was in a long term relationship and lost my partner in a car accident. I'm still healing from losing her. Maybe someday, I'll want to be in a relationship again. I don't really think about it. I just live for now and enjoy what I have.

I don't agree with you. Life was great while I was dating. She was the true love of my life. Having a mate is important in anyone's life for guidance and support. Your mate help neutralize who you are and not be so subjective.

Half sarcasm: The fact she felt the need to ask perfect strangers who know nothing about her relationship meant she was either asking for sounding board, or for permission from others to feel better about herself. What I was attempting to do, and I admit I probably did not do a very good job of, was to remind her of the bad things about being single. Either way it is her choice, but I just hope she goes into it with open eyes. Also, she needs to read, "Divorce Dirty Tricks." The book is full of very important things she must do before filing or asking for a separation. Read that book!!!!!!!!

Mike42 must have been a real ladies (or man's) man. I don't want to make assumptions of his sexual orientation. All I know is when I was dating, AIDS had just hit the scene and suddenly sores on the mouth and other areas no longer seemed like such a big deal. Now I've been married 18 years, and I would not go back to being single. Its all about who you find, and how much you are willing to put up with the dumb stuff the other person does. It's also about friendship, because as the lust dies down, the friendship grows. If you don't have friendship in a marriage, ya got nothin'.

Good way to live. Live, Love, and live the best you can. In the end, have as few regrets as possible.