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Would you turn in your daughters’ male roommate if you found out that he is wanted by the police?

It was no problem that he had been in jail before and was on parole and is a registered sex offender. Now I find out through the internet that he has is wanted by the police again. Would you turn him in or just keep your nose out of it? My 18 month old Grandson lives there too, my 2 other granddaughters go over and visit their parents because they live with their Dad's Parents. I don’t know what to do. My Daughter is pregnant with her 4th child - it's a girl. I just can't get excited about it yet.

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+7 Views: 971 Answers: 15 Posted: 13 years ago

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Colleen

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No matter what he's wanted for, he's wanted...your daughter could be arrested herself for harboring a fugitive. Turn him in.

13 years ago. Rating: 14
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daren1

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i'd give her an ultermanium ,two days if he's not willing to turn himself in , then yes call the cops the law exceeds no one. meantime i'd keep your kids away as far as possible

13 years ago. Rating: 14
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Headless Man

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Yes.......

13 years ago. Rating: 13
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friendindeed

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yvonnne..Sory I didnt read your question right. If he is a sex offender then I would confront him and also try to warn my daughter. Lots of horror stories out there. Hope all ends up for the best for you all.

13 years ago. Rating: 12
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carmaxable

the only trouble with warning her is if she loves him its going in one ear and out the other. unfortunately.

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Maz

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You have a duty to inform the police!

13 years ago. Rating: 12
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dad59

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YES, consider "harboring/ aiding and abetting" not good logic.

13 years ago. Rating: 11
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Colleen

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Yes. I'd worry for my daughter if I didn't.

13 years ago. Rating: 10
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mycatsmom

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Of course I would turm him in ---b/c she would be in danger, not to mention her children ! No woman should be with a sex offender of any kind !

13 years ago. Rating: 9
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Yvonne57

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I was going to be straight up with him and ask him, My daughter's boyfriend lives there too. What if this guy gets pissed off and hurts one of them. He is a registered sex offender but it doesn't say what he is wanted for this time.

13 years ago. Rating: 9
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Shootah

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Unfortunately, your daughter has made several really bad decisions. 1. harboring a fugitive. 2. Child endangerment. She could go to jail herself and have your grandson taken away from her. If you turn the guy in, you run the risk of starting off a chain of events that could have some serious and long term repercussions for your daughter and grandson. If you turn the guy in, it should be done in a place where it minimizes the negative consequences for your daughter and grandson. Otherwise, they will look at you as having been the cause of any negative repercussions. No one has addressed that aspect, and I think it is only fair to you that someone does bring that up!
Your daughter needs to do some damage control, and ask that the guy just quietly leave. After that, if someone turns him in for being a fugitive...he's the only one who suffers the consequences for his choices.

13 years ago. Rating: 8
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Colleen

So what your saying is, warn him, let him get away to go live with someone else who may have children and hope another person can then figure out he's wanted and is a known sex offender? I'm sorry, I can't agree with that. His where abouts are known now and so far he's not harmed the daughter or grandchild. Turn him in now.

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Shootah

All I'm Saying is, if she was to turn him in while he is living in the daughter's home, she can and probably would go to jail for harboring a fugitive, and the state would most likely take the grandson away from the daughter for child endangerment. Having the guy apprehended outside the home is an all-around best alternative.
I've known adults who were put into foster care as children, and I've heard my share of horror stories about that system. I wouldn't want to risk any grandchild of mine being put in jeopardy of being put into that system, nor would I want to have my daughter arrested for having made the bad choice of giving the wrong person a place to stay.
Just the act of an innocent little kid being yanked away from their mother could be very traumatizing. The guy could be arrested in front of the house, but so long as he is not busted in the house living there...innocent people don't get sucked into a bureaucracy that just eats innocent and naive people up. That's all I'm saying. I'm not saying let the guy go victimize someone else...he just needs to be apprehended outside the house.

commented 13 years ago

friendindeed

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I would give them a chance to sort it out and if they didnt then I would tell.

13 years ago. Rating: 8
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Yvonne57

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Well Guys, I've done the right thing , talked to my Daughter and feel much better. I don't think our "friend" will be staying there much longer. That is a good thing. Thank you for all your support, answers, and comments. You've all been just great.

If I didn't send you a TU , then I should have and it was an oversight and downright rude. I will keep you all posted. Yippee!

Regards/
Yvonne57

13 years ago. Rating: 8
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Maz

Well done! xx

commented 13 years ago

Yvonne57

thank you so much.

commented 13 years ago

Jenn

Hey Yvonne Dont thank us.... I have a felling you would have do the right thing regaurdless of our opinion. I have read many of you post and you ae a fabulous person.. I think you just need a little support... I am proud of you@!

commented 13 years ago

mycatsmom

Yvonne, you should have turned him in b/c she prob won't. I know you don't want to alientate your daughter from you , but she'll come to you when she needs money.

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Yvonne57

Thanks Jenn, I did need support and am so blessed with all of your responses. You are all so supportive.

my catsmom - She did come to me for money and after about $3000 from my savings I had to stop sending her money and enabling her. Boy that was a hard thing for me to do but I feel so much better in the long run. Now she calls me to talk, not just ask for money. She still asks but I still stand stronger.

commented 13 years ago

mycatsmom

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If the kids' school gets wind of this, they could actually be takne out of the home.....into foster homes.