Jenn
Should my hubby take a new job???? Details in Question....
HE has been with agood company that has great ins, and pays fairly well for the area. He worked 8 years of night shift and have been on days for 2 years.. He is the go to guy in his dept.....
He has been offered a job making $10 an hour more... However it is swing shift... 8 to 8 day or night. 2 on 2 off 3 on 3 off... It is 1 hour from our house were as the job he has now is 15 mins. (however he can ride share with a friend that works there).
Money means nothing to me, but he is a man and wants to give us all he thinks we should have.. He is also concerned about the kids college funds. On the other hand our son is 15 and NEEDS a father figure. Soon our daughter will be a teen and NEED a daddy at the door with a gun (LOL)..
Thanks AKA buddies.. Looking forward to feed back.
The suggestion made by ELW is one of if not the best answer I have seen on this forum.
Be sure he approaches his current employer with the fact that HE was approached not that he went looking.
I had and employee come to me some 50 years ago and tell me he had another job at better pay and did I want to match it. I knew he could only have applied for the other job during working hours so I turned to the wages clerk and said "Make up his time with a weeks wages in lieu of a weeks notice"
The man asked wouldn`t I consider matching and I said no I wasn`t because if he had so little respect that he went job hunting in my time I would prefer he did`t work for me.
Hard well as one of our former Prime Ministers said "Life wasn`t meant to be easy"
Be sure he approaches his current employer with the fact that HE was approached not that he went looking.
I had and employee come to me some 50 years ago and tell me he had another job at better pay and did I want to match it. I knew he could only have applied for the other job during working hours so I turned to the wages clerk and said "Make up his time with a weeks wages in lieu of a weeks notice"
The man asked wouldn`t I consider matching and I said no I wasn`t because if he had so little respect that he went job hunting in my time I would prefer he did`t work for me.
Hard well as one of our former Prime Ministers said "Life wasn`t meant to be easy"
Hubby has been completely honest with his current employers. And his dept head would give him anything he wanted to stay... They are well aware of what they are going to loss if he leaves... The problem is that he does not have the power to give him anymore money.. Hubby is at the top of the highest paygrade this company offers.It is a Japanese company and the order to create a new pay scale had to come from JApan.. There is a serious diconnect there... His boss has a confrence call today to try to make them understand that the pay scale has to change... The intire plant is freaking out about hubby leaving. And honestly that is a huge compliment.. I am so proud of him.
16 Answers
ed shank
I wouldn't, swing shift is hell on the body physically and mentally. I never worked those hours but have friends who did. They were absolutely worn out, it affected the family in every aspect. Sleep deprivation is the killer. Don't now how old your husband is, but he's not a kid anymore. The pay increase sounds great, but at what expense? Whatever your decision, I hope it all works out.
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
yes this has been one of our concerns.. he did work night shift for 8 years. HE also worked 4 hours away before that and drove to and from ATL every day. We are a strong committed couple and I think we can handle it. His father worked swing shift for 32 years. So we are well aware of the challanges. THANK YOU for you advice.
leeroy
If you have the time to put into this decision, it would be best to pray about it first. My brother-in-law left a good job at T.I. and moved to another state for a better job with Phillips. Something in the industry took a spin for the worst and he was stuck in a new state with a new house and a few months of savings, until he could find another new job.
Who knows what's going to happen in any industry or specific company better than God? I don't know anyone else who really knows the future. Hope this helps?
leeroy
Jenn
Who knows what's going to happen in any industry or specific company better than God? I don't know anyone else who really knows the future. Hope this helps?
| 13 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
The job he found is for much less money than the last two he had and he drives two hours each way now, but at least it's stable.
We are all praying... Mom inlaw dad inlaw me and hubby. This company has a pretty stable future it is the only one of its kind and it is impossible to drill for oil without the product they produce. AS for the current job.. it is acutecual products and the constrution industries is in a sad sad way.
daren1
if you need the money go for it,some things money just cant buy.. tough choice im sure you'll make the right one.
daren1
Yvonne57
| 13 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
i worked nights for three years both my wife and i enjoyed the change, we didn't have kids though so i can see were that would make your decision all the harder.
daren1 - oops - did I thumb - down you?? If so, I take it back a hundred times, meant to TU.
Yvonne
Yvonne
JDB
Jenn my wife worked the identical shift for over 10 years. You can get use to it, and plan around it but the bad thing is the long drive. Your going to figure about a 14 hr day minimum, bad weather is longer than that. The days that you work is just that work and sleep the first day off is catchup on sleep and housework, Its not bad for a young couple but if you have a family you get almost no time with them. When our daughter came along she went to 8hrs a day, took a pay cut but at least she gets to spend time with our daughter..
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
Thanks.. These are the reasons I am agianst the change... Iam glad to hear that they are valid concerns.
robertgrist
That on-off time through split shifts would lead me to ask about job security. Is the business stable and secure? If you look into the stock portfolio of the company and talk to a stock broker it may well be educational enough to make a believer out of you or recognize no-way/dead end. Its not my call. Get information on your employer and potential employer in detail. That work schedule suggests they are trying to get through finance problems and can’t afford two full time employees for the job. Why did whoever was there before quit or were fired? Better Business Bureau, Chamber of Commerce and other employees you may know personally…can all help. I hope this helps you make the best choice for you and your family.
Jenn
robertgrist
| 13 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
It is a factory... They run 24-7. No one has ever quit the dept in the 20 years it has been in opperation. The positions are only avalible because of growth in the industry and at this particular plant.. Only 2 ppl have retired from their potitions (in this department) out there. And they did so with full benifits.
Sounds like great stability and surety there. Stock options may be a winner there too. I think the working hours will change to your benefit as well.
schubee
Beside money and what you said, you guys need to think about a few more things.
Will there be an opportunity for "promotion" at current job or possible job?
Is your husband "satisfied" with what he is doing now, or does he want a "change or challenge"?
I hope whatever comes out is best for you!
Jenn
schubee
Will there be an opportunity for "promotion" at current job or possible job?
Is your husband "satisfied" with what he is doing now, or does he want a "change or challenge"?
I hope whatever comes out is best for you!
| 13 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
No he is at top pay at his current job.. but he knows it and loves the challage.
He will be hired at top out pay at the new job, but I dont know about the challange it will propose...
He has had 4 ppl who left his current employer to go to the potentian employer and they are in LOVE wit hte new job. That is where the new oppurtunity can form.. Ex-coworkes had "tooted his horn" to the powers that be... They are looking for someone with my hubby expeiriance and background... He did not apply for this job.
He will be hired at top out pay at the new job, but I dont know about the challange it will propose...
He has had 4 ppl who left his current employer to go to the potentian employer and they are in LOVE wit hte new job. That is where the new oppurtunity can form.. Ex-coworkes had "tooted his horn" to the powers that be... They are looking for someone with my hubby expeiriance and background... He did not apply for this job.
It sounds like a great opportunity then. I say, you leave this up to him to decide. I'm sure he will still be a great dad and husband.
IluvJesus
I think he will still be around enough to point and aim.LOL It sounds like a really great opportunity.I think he should take it,things would only get better.That sounds like an awesome promotion,my husbands out of work right now,I wish someone would offer him a job like that.Tell him to go for the gusto!!
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
I am sorry to hear about your hubby... I have been out of work for medicial reasons for a long time.. Part time here and there. SO hubby is the only bread winner. I know it is dificult. I do hope a door opens for him soon...
Thanks for the encouraging words. He is a great hubby and daddy and any time we spend will be wonderful.
Thanks for the encouraging words. He is a great hubby and daddy and any time we spend will be wonderful.
facebook
It sound to me still very young men capable of doing much better in some other occupation,however don't quite until you get new job,most employee are in desperate need of reliable people,experience.Although it take a leap of faith sometime,If all fail Jenn will back you up,she might feed the doggy food.Anyway you will never find out till you try,Good Luck.Happy Landing.
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
Thanks FB. We arent as young as we once were. ANd honestly if he was unhappy at the new job his current employer would take him back.
Roger Willcoe
Tommyh
Take the job.Life is full of challenges.Step up to the plate & do what ever it takes to make it work.Even if the money is unimportant you have to admit the extra comes in handy when you are raising kids.Good luck with it jenn.
PS,If he makes enough maybe you can save up & come down to see us.LOL.
Jenn
PS,If he makes enough maybe you can save up & come down to see us.LOL.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
Shhhhaaaa... I would love to!!!! I told him that if he take the job I will continue to sub.. But if he does not I can work full time to save for college. I am behind what ecer he desises, and we can make anything work.. we always have.
franklin5
banksizit
I think he should choose the job that when he is working, it dosn't feel like work. Meaning that he enjoys going to his job. I just hope the best for all of you
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
Aww Banks I know it hurts you terribly that I am a married woman, but thanks for the answer. LOL...
bvarga
Ask him what job would make him happier in his work,, forget the money it sounds like you survive well on is salary now. If your child wants to go to college it will happen, ther eare many ways oout there if the child is serious the parents dont have to give it all to him. being happy is the key.
Jenn
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
Money is not an issue because I grow up poor. I can make a 4 course meal out of flour and water. And I can make a nickle scream. Hubby on the other hand grew up well off. He hurts when he cant do something he think we should do because of money.
mycatsmom
Yvonne57
Jenn,
Since the job is an hour away will you be considering a move? If so, how much of that $10.00 per hour extra is going to go to a college fund and not to a new mortgage, gas increase prices, and stuff you think you want but don't really need.
I've watched/listened to you since I joined this forum and I find you to be thoughtful, intelligent, and usually right on point. Trust your own judgment. I trust you.
I noticed that you and your Hubby are having trouble sleeping - I know you have a lot on your minds, once you have sorted this all out, you should go back to sleeping like babies.
It takes a village to raise a child and half of your village may be going away. I wouldn't do it.
Give it a lot of thought and prayer. God will lead you in the right direction. Just make sure you are praying for the right thing.
Regards/
Yvonne
Jenn
Yvonne57
Since the job is an hour away will you be considering a move? If so, how much of that $10.00 per hour extra is going to go to a college fund and not to a new mortgage, gas increase prices, and stuff you think you want but don't really need.
I've watched/listened to you since I joined this forum and I find you to be thoughtful, intelligent, and usually right on point. Trust your own judgment. I trust you.
I noticed that you and your Hubby are having trouble sleeping - I know you have a lot on your minds, once you have sorted this all out, you should go back to sleeping like babies.
It takes a village to raise a child and half of your village may be going away. I wouldn't do it.
Give it a lot of thought and prayer. God will lead you in the right direction. Just make sure you are praying for the right thing.
Regards/
Yvonne
| 13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
What a thoughtful answer. Thank you. HE went to speak with the new company today. HE will be on shift woth a good friend from our home town.. THey will ride share. After driving the trip he found th at it is 35 mils from the house.. Not nearly as bad as we had thought. He is waithing to see what is going to come of the huge shake up at the current employer because of his interest in a new job. They are trying to create a new pay scale.... If this happenes he has decided to stay... IF it does not, we have decided it is a great oppertunity. Iwill not move. My children have a home not a house where we are. A community that loves them. We are here at least until both have graduated HS. THANK YOU, so much for your thoughts and prayers.
It takes courage to make decisions like this. I'm sure you all will be just fine. Things always turn out for the best. Whether you think so or not things always turn out like they should.
Best of luck
Yvonne
Best of luck
Yvonne
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Do not just look at the money, short term. Take a long look at the long term prospects with both jobs. You say he is the 'go to guy in his dept' Is this recognised by his boss/s? If so, what harm would there be in going to him/them and being up front, saying he has been made this offer, but is happy in his job. So before making a decission, could they say what his prospects are for the future. This will a) clarify his position should he stay, and b) might!! prompt a raise in his salary. In the end, do'es he want extra responsibilitys, or is he/you only interested in maximising his/your income. Over to you both.