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I think it is a personal choice and not wrong if it makes you uncomfortable.

It's a matter of choice.  Men can ask the same question too.

For me, it's not a question of fairness.  If you love someone, you accept the person as she is.  Like the Bible says, "Thy people (her kids) shalt be my people, and thy God, my God!"

Aww. Im a woman and I don't date people with kids. Just personal choice.

It is not UNFAIR.  I think, if a woman knows she is not "up" for a relationship with someone who has children, she is being incredibly unselfish to walk away from someone who may have fallen in love with her and been hurt more when she couldn't commit to a permanent relationship with him.

It may hurt her, too, because she loves him, but if she knows she can't be all she would want to be in that relationship (which includes friend/stepmother to the children), better to not get involved.

I don't think it's unfair, it's up to the individual, depends what the kids are like too, sometimes they can cause more problems that it's worth.

No, I don't think it's wrong, there maybe many reasons why a woman wouldn't want to commit to a family rather than an individual, I personally, having been through the mill as many have here, did not wish (selfishly maybe) to have to deal with anyone else s "baggage".I wished an uncomplicated life, have already raised six children and would not wish to start again. Fair or selfish, I doubt I could do more than go through the motions of caring for another family.I work hard, long hours and would not wish to come home to the demands children place on your time, for me it would be an injustice on them.

In the first place one must be strong and never enter into a relationship blind.  Therefore if one, man or woman does not want to date or is not ready to share time with another who has kids, thats ones own choice.  There is nothing to be  fair or unfair about.   In fact it is honest respect for another.  For some, where kids are concerned, man or woman, this is something they would prefer to do for themselves.    

Unfair?,no. Unfair to whom?. There is allot to be said for the"ready made family" good,bad,truth or lies. Just understand the difference between choices an limitations. You could very well close an avenue down in your life. Without really ever traveling down that road. The one person you might be unfair is to you. 

depends on the personality of the person and what they can handle

It's a personal choice of any person whom to date or not to date, there is nothing good or bad about, it's just about choices we make.

It's no worse than a man not wanting to date a woman with kids.  It's what each person is comfortable with.

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