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why is my son age 9 so abusive to his step dad?
my son is normaly quiet and none of my children have used abusive words or threatning behaviour towards any child or adult. when my partner moved in after the novelty wore of him being with us.my son quickly became angry towards him.saying such awful things.even running to his dads and saying my partner was bathing my 2 litte daughters.said my partner spent time with his sisters more than him.none of this is true.im not a dull or ignorant woman.id never let my partner bath my girls and i know they would be the first to tell me a if anything untoward was going on.i am 100% sure its not.ive even questioned my boys doubts just to see if and ony if there was something he was misreading.still theres nothing but my son still has concerns of a jeaous type of my partner being around his sisters and not him.ive done all i can to stop this abuse but it sti goes on.upsetting us a.im so upset please help me
Have you thought of sexual abuse? You never ever know. Don't blame your son. Perhaps it's his way of telling you, and you, are not listening. Check it out.
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leeroy
Many times with children, it is about attention. When you become involved in a relationship, it takes away from the quality time you may spend with your child. Many kids feel threatened by this loss of attention.
If you can give them some one on one time, maybe have them go fishing or do something that your child enjoys, this may give them time to bond.
You may also want to do more family activities together. For the most part I believe it's the child feeling left out and threatened, they feel like this new addition to the family may threaten your relationship with them.
You need to let your kids know that they will always be special to you, you need to reassure them.
If you can give them some one on one time, maybe have them go fishing or do something that your child enjoys, this may give them time to bond.
You may also want to do more family activities together. For the most part I believe it's the child feeling left out and threatened, they feel like this new addition to the family may threaten your relationship with them.
You need to let your kids know that they will always be special to you, you need to reassure them.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
IamPamela313
I don't know what kind of advice to give you. But, one thing for sure, pay close attention to your son and what he is saying. Also, I would suggest to question your daughters how they are being treated by their step-dad, particularly when he is not there. Lastly, Keep a close eye on the step-dad, especially, concerning your girls.
PLEASE TAKE NOTHING FOR GRANTED!!!
PLEASE TAKE NOTHING FOR GRANTED!!!
| 13 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
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| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
Jenn
Children do none see the world in the same way adults do.. Thier intuation is much less clouded than ours. He obviously sees something he is uncomfortable with.. Talk to him. Talk to all of your chilren and try to come to an understanding about how he is interpreting your new household.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
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IluvJesus
As a mother,it is important to pay attention to your children's home environment.However children especially boys have a hard time accepting a male partner into their home and replacing their father,I'm remarried,and it hasn't been easy for my two kids to accept their stepfather,we also(me and my husband) have a four year old together,but we have been able to make it work with a lot of effort,step situations are never easy,for the children or the stepparent.In time your son will adjust,tell your partner to give it all the patience and understanding he can,and in time it will get better,the good thing is your son is still young,and he will adjust in time,but allow him that time,he is entitled to it.It will get better.Best of luck!:)
| 13 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
country bumpkin
If a man were causing this type of reaction in my child then he would not be around long. A negative personality change in my child toward a boyfriend would be all I need to tell him to make sure the door doesn't hit him in the a$$ on his way out. I would not question the reasons for my childs behavior because he may never tell me. I can always get a new boyfriend but never a new child.
country bumpkin
| 13 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
I didn't realize this was the step dad, I thought this was just a boyfriend. This makes the situation a little more complicated!
robertgrist
The step-dad is competing for the #1 spot in his mothers heart. He sees the step dad as an intruder in the relationship with his mom. To get this straightened out… you probably need to see a family relationship councilor…The child’s since of order has made him to be the looser in his relationship with his mother. He went from being #2 after Mom to #3 after Butt head-intruder-thief-mother-F*****.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
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