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    I was in a transition. We had one group date which I did not want all the others there. He startled me by out of the blue asking if he could call me. I didn't know what to say so said nothing then. I guess he took it as no. It wasn't. I tried to be friendly after that and I thought he knew it. But an older woman sunk her fangs into him and proclaimed he was hers. I accepted that but still tried to be friends and find some common ground if they split. I have not tried get in the middle but just to be there in the background. I got a message to not bother him and it really hurt. It wasn't his words but hers. So I said good bye. Haven't tried to contact him in about 5 months. My heart still hurts but I am trying to move on. Have I done the right thing??

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    +1  Views: 743 Answers: 7 Posted: 13 years ago
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      Nope you didn'y do the right thing.(For yourself).The door to opportunity has a sign on it."PUSH". Sorry!:(
      13 years ago. Rating: 4
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        BAby doll, I think you may want him now because you cant have him..(LOL I know it well and it sucks) But take heart if she is trying to live his life for him..It will not last... I would suggest you back off but not forget you might have a conection. Life your life and find your own happiness.
        13 years ago. Rating: 4
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          Lupe, you've been on one group date? You don't even know this guy much less have known him long enough to have your heart hurt. Move on my friend. You know the old adage - everything happens for a reason. This happened so you would find someone else. Leave him alone - he has a girlfriend. I take it he hasn't tried to contact you either? There's your answer. Sorry.
          13 years ago. Rating: 3
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            Lupe

            She looks like his mother. Others have told me that she is taking him for all he has. I think she is the one communicating with me because there was never a name with the text reply on his phone when she found out I would not answer her number.
            commented 13 years ago
            may be not, how do you know if he is truely happy with this girl? he did show intrest in ask you by asking if he could call you, of cource you dont want to rock the boat if hes happy. perhaps if you were to casually "bump" into him maybe theres still a spark their..why torture yourself persue your heart,without any great expectations cause if things dont go in your favor the dissapointment will be easier to bear, if it dont work move on lifes short...
            13 years ago. Rating: 2
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              Lupe,

              Never give up trying, unless this guy tells you straigh out, There is no hope. This guy did ask for your fone no, and misunderstood, that no reply was, a no. It was your fault in first place, now you must try harder. Good Luck.
              13 years ago. Rating: 2
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                Lupe

                He has never told me directly anything about not wanting to at least be friends. I don't plan to ever talk to him again unless he speaks first. I was hurt and do beleive in second chances.
                Our mutual friend is always the one who brings him up to me. I care but I think he gave up too easiely when I he tried harder with other ladies before me.
                commented 13 years ago
                (((Lupe))) It is the hardest thing ever.. To imagine what could have been... I still ache for "the one who got away" And I have been happily married for 17 yrs. But eventually i had to rip him out of my life.. But he will always have some little part of my heart.
                13 years ago. Rating: 2
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                  Our mutual friend keeps telling me that he is not happy and will not stay with her. He has said there is no love on is part. That is one reason I tried for a while to be a friend. He was friendly for a while and we met in different places. There was more connection than one group date but that was our only real date. I am trying to forget but it is hard.
                  13 years ago. Rating: 0
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                    Jenn

                    (((Lupe))) It is the hardest thing ever.. To imagine what could have been... I still ache for "the one who got away" And I have been happily married for 17 yrs. But eventually i had to rip him out of my life.. But he will always have some little part of my heart.
                    commented 13 years ago
                    varon

                    Jean, hope your husband is not the jealous type. lol
                    commented 13 years ago
                    Jenn

                    He is the secure type.. We are extremely honest with one another. And he is my hero!
                    commented 13 years ago


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