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I don't believe they were raised the way we oldsters were! We were taught to respect our elders. Times they are achangin'!

Kids lost their respect from their parents Dad and mom both work , and hire babysitters ,child care workers to do the parenting, parents feel guilty then spoil the children, Then kids don't get what they want throw a fit on parents ,parents respond by giving in to the kids and the cycles goes on and on. And all the experts can't seem to agree as to why the children are the way they are. Simple they have no role model.

I'm am 48 years old. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and have just had our first child. Yes we look at how kids are turning out now compared to when we grew up and ya its scary. I think the biggest thing I noticed through the years is the way parents want to be with there kids. I've seen parents at work that say damn I've gotta go watch my kid play ball tonite or gotta go to a school play. Then the parents that say wow I have to watch my kid play ball tonite can't wait, hope its a good game. my mom and dad went to my games and plays and atleast looked like they were enjoying themselves. And I do know that if I got in trouble at school I was in trouble when I got home I will open doors, give up my seat, say yes sir no sir, and my little girl will learn to have respect like that too..

they have no parents to teach them how or who to respect. They have friends that happened to spawn them. My kids are amazingly respectful. I am BLESSED!

I have 11 children and they were taught to respect mom and dad.They still respect dad mom died a couple years ago.

society teaches what the market will buy.  look at movies and television, which demonstrates what we are teaching our young. not too much of it pushes for respecting elders or respecting anyone else for that matter.

The "laws" do not allow proper disiplin for kids that NEED it...rendering an adult useless in raising a child..the government wants to do that..then, in a few generations....the people will be forced to       1}: become a :Government Family...                                                                                           2}: become the Enemy of our own families(as government disrupts it to a point of no return)           3}: Learn to accept being told "When and WHY to express your emotions as an adult..".but let the aggressive young child with an obvious attitude problem simply continue into adulthood with the improper influence.........I COULD continue...however...I know you know how it is...yet...I Wonder..'cuz I'm the "Wonderer"!...

Because elders have allowed it to happen, along with laws that enable the children.

I think that a lot of parents, for whatever reasons, are afraid to discipline their children. Also I believe that basic etiquette in general has gone by the wayside. I live in New York and when riding the bus or subway I can't begin to count the number of times I've seen people not give up their seats to elderly, pregnant or disabled persons. People don't always say excuse me or thank you. They don't hold doors open for people with packages, etc. These were considered basic manners when I was growing up.

Colleen

I agree, this new world is a very self orientated world. I am considered tall, 5'8" & when I'm out shopping there's always someone trying to reach something on a top shelve. I'll go over & get what they're reaching for & I'm always amazed at how shocked they look that a stranger was willing to help them. Now I've held doors before for people only to have them walk on by without a thank you. It doesn't stop me from helping others. I've had friends say that because of one instance like mine, they'll never hold a door again. All inclusive thinking seems to have changed how we treat each other.

I agree with papa peg, if parents teach their own children to respect elders, they will do so. But I also believe most children do respect their elders, but unfortunately, the children most of us see are either television shows that depict children who have smart mouths, or are the trouble makers we read about in newspapers. As a teacher, I see the good ones and the bad ones, but the good ones far outnumber the bad. Take heart America. You are not doing a bad job raising your children, but you are being convince otherwise by boob tube shows and horrible movies that do their best to depict our young as horrible beings. If you want to see the truth, go to any boys and girls club and volunteer. Or go to schools and volunteers as hall monitors and lunch room monitors. Go to your favorite religious place of worship and get involved with the youngsters. There are all kinds of ways to see our youth. 4-H anyone? How about being a Big Brother or Big Sister? As I said, the young people today are wonderful. Just don't look for the rotten apples because they will sour your pallet for the really good ones.

First of all, Elders must be respectable.
Part of being respectable is teaching the young how to behave.
Parents (many of them) have not been doing that.
You don't have to beat the kid. Just let them know
from the very beginning -- like age 1 1/2 -- that
that is, or is not, the way to behave.
If you start early, you don't have much problem.

Children of the baby boomers, myself included, were very coddled on the whole. Parents thought that is was their undying duty to give them a storybook life. Each generation wants more for its offspring, that is natural. But we took itto a new level, So worried about their self esteem, parents were afraid to have high expectations of their kids. God forbid should they grow up feeling disappointed, experience failure or rejection. It is not good to protect them from the realities of life. How will they handle these experiences when they are adults? So I suspect that the children lost respect due to our fear of being unpopular with them, few consequences, so whom DO they respect? Their peers, unfortunately. We were afraid to be tough. I was called the strictest mother in town, and I said thanks, I am doing my job. However, as they enter their late 20's and so, their sense of entitlement persists. It is never too late to demand respect. I got a smack from my Dad just for giving Mom a dirty look, and that was good, and I am not a violent person. But the message was quickly received. And I due respect my elders, because most of them have wisdom that i have not attained.

this was posted 3 years ago,so kids are 3 years worse than they were,,the only thing that changed,,,,parents give them more slack than 3 years ago,,,,The parents of today seem to say,,"my kids are not going to grow up like i did, They are going to have the freedom to do the things i was not allowed to do.."I think that about say's it all.....................................always nice talking

uh, the new generation of kids, these days, like spaceghost said; SO SAD, SO SAD, SO SAD.....
i remember mum telling me, if her mum told her something to do, she MUST do it, there is just NO other way,
these days, some even push their mothers when she tries to hit him on the ears......
BUT I"M A GOOD ONE < LOVE MY MUMMY AND DADDY AND RESPECT FOR ALL< ESPECIALLY ELDERS :D

IN ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION HAVE A LOOK IN ANY LOUNGE ROOM IN "ADVANCED" COUNTRY, HAVE A LOOK IN MOST CHILDRENS` BED ROOM IN SAME AREAS AND YOUR ANSWER LIES "HIDDEN IN PLAIN VIEW" IN BLACK PLASTIC BOXES OF VARIOUS SHAPES AND SIZES.

HOW CAN RESPECT BE THE NORM WHEN CHILDREN AND ADULTS BRAINS ARE CONTINUALY BOMBARDED WITH DISRESPECTFUL "ENTERTAINMENT" DISRESPECTFUL ACTIONS ARE FOLLOWED BY "CANNED" LAUGHTER TO SHOW HOW HILARIOUS IT IS SO WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT> PLANT WHEAT YOU GET WHEAT> PLANT DISRESPECT YOU GET WELL I GUESS YOU KNOW BY NOW. A VERY RESPECTFUL GOOD-BYE FOR NOW.

Wow SG...just asked a similar question! Great minds think alike. I think that the kids don't appreciate what their elders have done to make their lives better for them. Unfortunately it's common in every generation but I agree, it's worse now more that ever. Maybe I see it more because I'm an elder...Lord help me! Ha ha!

In my experience it's the elders that close their minds to change and therefore treat young people like they are rebelling against all that's good in the world.. disturbing their sense of normalcy. My own grandparents are a good example.. always blaming young people for this or that.. All the while it's the system that's targeting the young people to seem like criminals and disturbed people that need to be corrected. Kids are targeted by the system to be indoctrinated in to a stupid.. sustainable future. Wake up!

Watch television and movies, like children and teens do, and you'll notice the idea of respect for one's elders isn't in the script.  PERSONALLY, I think the problem started with the "Love Generation" of the 1960's, which would be the middle baby boomers. A lot of those folks brought up their kids without boundaries. They grew up and had kids who were raised similarly, if not even more liberally.  The kids today are the grandchildren of those '60s young adults.  Moral values are lower now, too, as evidenced by TV shows like "16 and pregnant".  WHY would we want to encourage that?

because they are morons , if their brains where made of dynamite it wouldnt blow
their hats off

This is a big problem in the school district. The kids have no fear of authority, or any adult, b/c their parents let them say and do whatever the h----   they want.