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    Why are husbands more aroused by other women than their wives even though he has a hot wife?

    +3  Views: 1587 Answers: 14 Posted: 13 years ago

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    You're a nice looking lady and I don't think you need to keep going through this emotional abuse, you need to think about this very carefully and weigh all your options.
    As a man I am at a loss to understand your husband if all you say is correct. Why would anyone want to have scraps from the garbage when he could have fillet steak at home?
    If all you say is as it is I am afraid the only course to take is to get out and, as suggested by Umbriel, make sure you get a cash settlement, if possible move well away from him as he is obviously a sandwich short of a picnic and may become nasty.
    You say you satisfy his needs at home by carrying out oral on him. How could you lower yourself to that level having no idea where he has had it. Don`t get me wrong oral is great BUT. Good luck
    Alyssa J.

    I'm just a stupid bitch to him who is like a toy to play mental games with. I put up with it because of esteem issues and I'm holding on to the possibility he may change and begin to love me someday.
    Alyssa J.

    I'm correct in all I've said, I posted a photo of what I look like to my profile and I don't really believe I look all that bad.
    PEOPLELOVER

    AlyssaJ, I agree with you , from your `photo you sure are not too shabby. I must say you have sad eyes which is dreadfully sad to me even if I am in Australia. Whatever you do don`t jump from the frying pan into the fire. Move on in your life but don`t pick another bad one just for the sake of having someone.

    There is out there in the multitude, a man who will put the sparkle back in you eyes and a smile on your face.

    You are a beautiful young woman who is going through a bad patch. I have daughters ages from 42 to 56 and I have always told them "this is another colour on the canvass of your life so keep on painting"

    A wise man once said "This too shall pass" Trust me it will, and you will emerge a better person for it. Good luck from a old old Aussie.
    it called forbidden fruit it as old as the earth
    Kick him out and get another one!
    Alyssa J.

    I'm afraid of becoming attached to someone only to end up shit on. A broken heart is very painful.
    Can't speak for anyone else but, the wife (I do call her my old lady) was hot, still is hot. There's no reason for "Reckless Eyeballing" on my part. I'm not blind but very seldom do I see a comp.
    Alyssa J.

    She is very lucky to have a man like you in her life. The good ones are all taken.
    ed shank

    I'm no expert in this field but more times than not, the partner cheating is not necessarily involved with another for sex. Perhaps a communication breakdown over a period of time has made "him" feel worthless and unappreciated? I'm in no way defending this bad behavior, but it isn't out of the question either. The fact that he's involved with others who in your opinion are not as attractive in your eyes as you are, may in fact be the answer. Not being able to communicate with one another is usually the beginning of the end. You sound like an intelligent person, and you know who will hurt the most if you do this terrible thing. Please, seek some one on one counseling with a professional. Our hearts go out to you. Let us
    A guy that's going for the easy lay is a guy who has very low self esteem. No confidence either, unless he's just into sleazy. Either way it's not your fault, you can't change anyone but yourself.

    No, the good ones are not all taken. If you would divorce the SOB who doesn't deserve you and of course you don't deserve what he is dishing out, you could find out for yourself.

    Good luck honey. Get your head screwed on straight and head to the divorce lawyers. Seems like you've got more than enough ammunition to get the paperwork moving along nicely.
    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence!
    Alyssa J.

    Not in his case, he chooses needy women with alot of issues. He's even hooked up with druggies and then had the nerve to compare me to such garbage... I'm a million times prettier, I have all of my teeth and I don't run the street doing drugs and sleeping around with anything that moves. I'd be rich if I sold sex because I'd be the best thing out there on those nasty streets.
    ole hipster

    Your comment about those nasty streets made me wonder if perhaps you don't live in Chicago like I do??!! All kidding aside....sounds like your old man or whatever he is to y ou has a few issues of his own...hold your head high and tell him to bite your pretty ass! (:
    I have an answer ... but it can't be used with a man who is mean and/or violent. All you have to do is flirt with somebody. Anybody. He'll get REALLY interested in you f---a---s----t! Gonna try.
    btw, I am a woman.
    Jenn

    LOL I used to go down on my hubby if he got a girls number... It is great to be with someone whos feels good about themselves
    Alyssa J.

    My sex life with him is a blowjob, I get nothing. I've had several men flirt with me and make comments with him present and he's asked them if they were interested in having sex with me. Seems he's done with me and throwing me away like a piece of trash who's grown old though I still look great at 37.
    Man are very visual creatures but I don't think as many as you may think are more attracted to other women...we're all different in our perceptions, be we male or female. (:
    Alyssa J.

    He doesn't give a damn what they look like, he's on it.
    MOST men are not emotional when it comes to sex. MOST women are. Have you ever watched shows like "Wild Kingdom"? MOST women equate sex with love. MOST men don't. I have a friend who LOVED to have sex with FAT girls but he wouldn't be seen in public with one because it would reflect his "poor taste in women". (HIS words). My cousin, who comes from a VERY well to do family, buys her 'scruffs' @ the local Ralph Lauren' store and swears Rubies are for only for weekend wear used to love to screw around with 'under educated', low life men, covered in leather jackets and tattoos. Why? Because they made her feel dirty ... and once in a while, she just loved to have down and dirty sex!
    Alyssa J.

    I'm lost and have ran out of options with trying or hoping to change this. I have no idea what goes through his mind or his exact feelings for me if any. I get negative abusive remarks when I mention something about it and get a 'shut up because it's no big deal'.
    Alyssa J.

    Kissing someones ass gets tiring over time. I can't make anyone love me or give me positive attention so I'm in a pretty bad point in life right now.

    We older men tend to see things better from a distance.  I am sure you wives look very gorgeous but we are unable to see too closely.  From afar, our eyesight's very keen.  Let me show you why:


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    It sucks knowing he may not love me as much as I do. I shouldn't blame myself but I'm searching for the flaw that makes me so unattractive to him these days. I think he's bored since we've been together for so long. I'm pulling away and will be learning how not to love someone so much. I want him to be happy with what he's got instead of having to think of other women. I don't want to be second in his life!!
    Jenn

    For him love has nothing to do with it... You being a beautiful women has nothing to do with it... It is fantacy, the unknown... I find other weman attractive so my hubsband and i talk about what is beautiful about other weman. It takes the curiosity out of it. The pressure of him thinking me may have to hide that he finds another women beautiful. He just tells me... We dont swing or anything like that but he knows I know there will always be pretty girls and it os ok to notice them....
    Alyssa J.

    I notice pretty women too but my husband always has sex with women who aren't attractive. These are street women with alot of issues so it's a slap in my face. If he's going to choose to be with someone in a sexual way he should have a little more esteem in himself and pick women who are either more or equally pretty as I am. He chooses dumpy, toothless and old etc.....
    See what I mean about the womens' answers? Emotional. For men, it's just sex. No emotion. None of this stuff about her being prettier or skinnier or more alluring ... to most men, it's just sex. Look at all the other animals around you. They aren't worried about who's married or better looking or any of that stuff. The male animals just see something that makes their tool stiff - in that minute - and nothing else. IT'S JUST SEX. Nothing else. JUST SEX. No emotion, no talking, JUST SEX !!
    Colleen

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    Then men like that should never get married. I do not believe all men are like that. I believe some men do get emotionally involved.


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