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Very carefully. And be ready to itemize the "why" part so that he clearly understands.

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I'm SURE she already knows you don't like her. Women can sense these things without you saying a word. She probably also feels in competition with your biological mother. First, talk with your dad and ask him what she thinks of you and how you can make it positive. Let him know he can be honest and you can handle anything he says - but be READY for anything! Remember, he also knows you don't like her and is feeling trapped in the middle of you two and trying to make both of you happy.

Also, try spending some time with her one on one. You may be surprised to find she is a great person. She is probably struggling to fit in to 'your' family and is not sure how to. Show her you're trying and let her in turn, show you how nice she can be also.

You are both competing for your dad's time and attention. Suggest scheduling family time as well as (equal) one on one time for both you and your dad and her and your dad.

Secret: (Ask for her opinion on something...she'll see you value her and probably start being nicer to you.)

Overall, be a good kid. You know what's expected of you (if not, ASK!). Do good in school, your chores, your homework, etc. Don't give her a reason to be upset with you. COMMUNICATE with them!! Parents don't always do the right things either, but they try. Regardless, they love you very much....even your step mom loves you. She's probably just not sure how to show it. She would not have married your dad if she was not willing to accept and love you as well.

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