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well simply said I wld have to agree. I wasnt happy with my husband of 13 years and we have 2 children. I woke up one day and said to myself that's it no more. Spoke to him that night we went for a walk on the beach and told him I havent been happy for a long time and I wanted out of the marriage . we now share the children 50-50 and my life has never been better. I have found myself again and grown so much as a parent and a person since then. I would recommend it to anyone who is not happy. I was so unhappy I had migraines that were killing me slowly. A week after seperation, gone. Life is way too short to be unhappy. we were never meant to spend one whole lifetime with just one person. We are meant to have many lives in our one life and its only up to you to do something about it, noone else can for you. Be brave be strong and dont look back, look forward to a brighter happier future :-)

One simple word D-I-V-O-R-C-E. That would be your best answer.

don't say anything to cause anger. All of the things that bother you about him, make suggestions that could improve the relationship, and when he communicates that he doesn't want to, that's when you tell him how you feel.. it's the only way t ease into it sincerely.

My wife said she was going to lunch and never came back

What I hear you saying in the question is, why do I continue to stay with a man who is abusing me in one way or the other, whether it be his addiction, cheating, financial problems, physical of mental abuse etc. The answer is because women usually are afraid of insecurity in their life, first. The problem is indulging a spouse never ever ever leads to the behavior change which is sought. NEVER. The problem only gets worse until there is a critical event like , hospitaliztion in the case of abuse, or some type of encounter with the police. Even after a few of those , some women refuse to admit they ae trapped in a relatonship which is going no where fast,which will never improve , and often will lead to a horrible demise one way or the other. So seek professional help now. Especially if children are involved.

not so easy to DIVORCE ... when having kids... well i dont know what ur situation is ya dont do things that cud aggravate it more... not sayin u start to tolerate him unnecessarily but ya try to improve in ways u wud like it or he wud like things... that helps... men dont like bossy women... avoid it as much as possible... well i'm myself in that dilemma... but giving up or just walking away is never a solution but ya when its never ending then leaving is the only solution ;)

simply say i want to SEPARATE! and i believe temporary separation would be a better idea to start with, becoz later you have a choice to stay together or not, and if you think its better without then file a divorce :) and there are many reasons of a woman to continue with it becoz she likes giving chances and keep trying and never gives up so easily esp. if she loves her man ;)

Always go with your gut feeling, if you know it's over then stop 'plodding' along as you will only begin to hate and blame the other party simply because you do not have the guts to get out and it's not fair on them. I know that's easy to say but having been there myself, i wish i had done it a lot sooner than i did. I suffered more mentally when still in the relationship than i did in the immediate aftermath of leaving. I hurt him dreadfully but time really does heal and we both realise now it was for the best. It was changing me being with him,and i began to hate myself and him, which was unfair as i had simply fallen out of love with him and i knew i could never recover that. I brought him down with me which wasn't fair.

Have good friends around you and always talk, but always trust your instinct.