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In many other countries the children take care of the parents when they get older and can't take care of themselves. It's a common thing to have three or four generations of family living in one household.

America is different, family doesn't seem to have the same value as it does in other places in the world, it's a shame. Usually they are sent there because they need to be supervised constantly, possibly some of them senile, or may pose a danger to themselves if left alone.

I think that people should take care of their extended family, but many of us are to busy working to make money and don't have the time that's needed to put into caring for the elderly.

Sometime they are there because they need to be monitored by a nurse because of health issues, there are many reasons I suppose. Hope this helps.

13 years ago. Rating: 5
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Both of my parents are in the latter stages of Alzheimer's. My two brothers and I have done everything humanly possible to care for them. They don't recognize us any more, they will not allow in-home care providers in their home. We have no other option at this point but to place them in assisted living. We live quite a distance from our parents and it simply isn't feasible to see them daily. None of our homes are handicap friendly. God knows we tried our best. I feel no guilt by having to see to it that they are cared for correctly in a facility.

13 years ago. Rating: 4
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most common reason i know of; their kids are to selfish to take care of them!

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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The problem is, some people have small families, like I do . And I was the only one around here to take care of my mom.But, I had to work. So , what I prayed would never happen, happened. She broke her hip and went straight to the nursing home from the hospital.  It was for 3 months.Then she died  :' ( 

  I was 3 months too long for me that she was in a nursing home.

Fortunately, my dad, who died before her, had the big one and only lived for about 5 hours after that.

10 years ago. Rating: 3
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There is no one to take care of them or they are too sick for anyone to take care of them...I worked at a Nursing home...I hope I die first...I never want to go into one!

13 years ago. Rating: 3
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I am quite sure there are a myraid of reasons but i would hope that one would not put their elderly in there and just forget about them and never visit I could never do that do my Mom after I had to have surgery on my arm (elbow from lifting her all the time she had to be put in a small home it was not a nursing home per se, but I still visited most everyday and all I could not and would not and hope I helped her in not feeling abandoned and alone. I hope and pray that I accomplished that much at least.

13 years ago. Rating: 2
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They can no longer take care of themselfes, like getting dressed. cooking food or taking a bath on theire own. Many people have
Alzheimers who do not recognize theire own family. They get restless and combative and eventually forget to eat and become
incontinent. They need care 24/7. Sad, but true

13 years ago. Rating: 1
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Being that many of us come from broken homes, usually raised by our mothers, and the American Dream is for a happy, financially comfortable life, this may be one of the bigger cultural differences.

When I studied German in high school, there was a chapter on family, and the example was of 3 generations living in the same home, I thought that was odd. Independence is also another American quality that may have something to do with it. I'm sure a big part is when both parents are working to try to pay the bills, it doesn't leave much time to take care of their parents.

Interesting subject, the elderly are almost discarded in some families, it's sad to say. When my grandfather become ill in his late eighties, my mom moved up north and took care of him until he passed. It seems with each generation we have less respect for our elders and become a little more selfish? Not everyone though, but the nursing homes aren't hurting for business, I'm sure.

13 years ago. Rating: 1
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it is obvios!!! They cannot look after themselves through illness or loneliness. DIMBO!!!!

13 years ago. Rating: 0
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