Jenn
My husband and I have been married for 17 years so this is not a real issue. Acctually at this point it is a little bit of a joke between us. One of us claims that guys and girls can be 'just' friends. One of us thinks that there will always be an alterial motive. Even if it is never acted apon. SO, what do you think?
Nice.... But it does have to be a part on a friendship... we can control ourselves. And ther eis not ALWAYS a hidden agenda.
FIRST you want to know im am a man and ya sure i believe men and women can get a long fine but sex sure help dont ya think
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leeroy
Most of the platonic friendships with women I have experienced has been with attractive ones, or possibly women who have been attracted to me, so on the one hand for the most part, this is a major factor in the guy/gal relationships in my life.
On the other hand I have enjoyed one long standing relationship with a woman (who originally had a crush on me), but I have never found her attractive. We have been great friends for about twenty years, and are close enough to tell each other anything. She is a beautiful person on the inside and that's the most important ingredient to a long lasting friendship in my opinion.
I have had other good friendships with women who were coworkers at any given point of my life. Some there was a mutual attraction, others there wasn't. So Yes I know from experience that you can have a friendship relationship with the opposite sex. I'm not sure how important this factor is, but I don't just jump into bed with every willing female. I like to choose my women wisely and enjoy long and healthy relationship.
So maybe the way you practice your relationships with the opposite sex has a strong bearing on whether you can be platonic friends or not? TMO
| 13 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
Darci13
Spaceghost
Yes I think so,reason being I have MORE girls that are friends of mine than guys. Nothing sexual, even though the temptation may be there, you got to think, this IS going to destroy a good friendship. I've talked to many women and they told me they would rather have men friends than women. My wife and I are also really GOOD FRIENDS.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
Jenn
I am the one who think we can be friends my husband swears we cant.... Which is bad because I only talk to guys.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
Anyhow congrats on the 10,000. milestone, I only voted on answers I thought were all good, so don't feel like it was a cheat, because you earned it. Your Pal, Leeroy
Coach
Bugs70
| 13 years ago. Rating: 2 | |
Orion
schubee
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
doublehelix
rickey50
yes i have more girlfriends then men friends and my wife knows this. over the years they call me and talk about there boyfriends or husbands.. the reasons that we are close is that they know that they can ask me anything and i will give them a answer regardless if it hurts there feelings or not. just the other day one called and told me that she thinks that her bf was messing around. i ask her what he was doing and how he was acting around her. i told her what i thought.. i;m sure it hurt, but i have always said that you can get over the truth easier then you can a lie.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Jenia
anonymous_sender
mscutipiez
chemlover7
Well, I'm a girl.
I think it is acceptable to have a guy as a friend. Until you start to see that the guy is hitting on you, but you know who you really love. So it's okay as long you know how to control yourself and your guy friend understands that you are in a relationship and respects that.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
dampsquibbs
Mike Mccarthy
BRIANANDFUJI
manul
stevee7
Telling the true, I don't think so, some men and women try destroy your relationship, they don't really respect what friend means, if you know a guy try to be with cannot be your friend, any body can be friend with respect, but going out together I don't think so, you can going out with your girl not with body who have a boyfriend for me that's wrong, me I am so jealous I love my fiancee a lot, that never gonna happen, now men and women doesn't care about what friend means...
| 13 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
Lahn
Kelbel
ladyknight
Joe was my best friend since I was 16. He was actually my boyfriends, then husband and my best friend. Regardless of my personal relationships, they understood our relationship. We would go to lunch or dinner, called every week and got together whenever our schedules allowed. I've been lucky enough to have added another best "guy" friend to my life. We have been exceptional friends for 25 years. My boyfriend and I spend alot of time with him and his wife. Actually, my boyfriend walked her down the aisle for their wedding.
I believe men and women can be best friends. It is in the way you present and involve the person in your life that makes the difference. Unfortunately Joe passed away 2 years ago and I miss him very much. I lost a part of me that day.
| 13 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
I am so sorry to here that... I am only friends with guys who my husband has a relationsp with. I think that holds them accountable for their behavior. I have one friend I have had forever and my husband is very jealous of him. But he is friends with him reguardless. I have a woderful husband. But he is froever telling my Daughter and Neices the guys dont want to be their friend, they want more.
movingontomore
Jasper
It doesn't work. I'm 65, married 42 happy years and have had many girl friends over the years.
All have ended one of two ways. This goes for "in person" and "internet" friendships. One; other people start talking about our friendship and cause problems in the relationship with my wife, or Two; the female wants more to the relationship then just friendship. I still enjoy my relationships with females, but they are at arms length (long arm.) Truely it is worth the time and effort to put all your energy into the friendship with your spouse. Then when one of you dies, there will be no regrets. Your lives will have been spent with your best friend.....and lover!
| 13 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
Shelly
Oh, and please let me know if you are a guy or girl so I can tell if it is a gender thing.