mycatsmom

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Do you believe in spanking ?

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+4 Views: 1377 Answers: 9 Posted: 6 years ago

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Ducky

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Best answer!

Yes BUTT.......it should not leave bruises and welts. A spanking should be a swat on the behind, not an abusive beating, handed out with anger. That happens too often and accomplishes nothing positive.

6 years ago. Rating: 6
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mycatsmom

Butt was used in the right context here ;-)

commented 6 years ago

Ducky

Thank you but....

commented 6 years ago

country bumpkin

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I do believe in spanking.

6 years ago. Rating: 7
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Ducky

OUCH!!!

commented 6 years ago

country bumpkin

It looks like a chubby sausage with the casing coming off in both directions. LOL

commented 6 years ago

Ducky

LOL!!

commented 6 years ago

terryfossil 1

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Spare the rod spoil the child MCM...>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<..

6 years ago. Rating: 7
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jhharlan

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Oh, I guess I believe in it, I was terrified of my mom; she used to own a horse quirt. But in all honesty, i never had to raise a hand to my son, he was that good.....

6 years ago. Rating: 6
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mycatsmom

my mom used a wooden hair brush that had raised ridges on the back of it.....so it left bruises.! !

commented 6 years ago

tabber

Ducky, that's why we should not assume. you help us so much I figure your life was a breeze, but I know many that had to look over their shoulder a lot as a kid. I'm happy we are talking about this topic, i'm of the mind if you can talk it out, it goes out of us. lol

commented 6 years ago

Benthere

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....yes, guided by love

6 years ago. Rating: 5
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mycatsmom

this also is a '' best answer '' It was tough to choose.

commented 6 years ago

tabber

"guided by love" is a great, but it seems that we grownups start spanking on kids they get into a trance and it turns into a ruppin', then a beating. then they get to beating like they are trying to kill somebody. that's why now in California, you can just slap your kid and child protective services can remove the child or children from the home.

commented 6 years ago

Ducky

@tabber.....That means that the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction. Government should not be in the 'child raising' business. That is the job of parents and parents only! A slap is not abuse! It's the job of Mom and Dad called discipline.

commented 6 years ago

tabber

Ducky, the pendulum is constantly swinging, and we must strive for balance in most things. I have worked with kids in various settings for 20 years. I have seen it all. I've seen kids taken away that maybe should have not been. However, some of these caregivers are so mean and cruel, somebody needs to step in, even if it's the government. To this day when I see a mom slapping a young child I talk to the mom. Most of the time they don't get mad, but a few have. I believe we need required child rearing classes, before a mom has the baby. I could write a book on what these kids have gone through, and what the kids have said they wish they could do to their mom. it's not pretty. these kids were called the top 2% of emotionally disturbed kids, which I believe it's basically what they have been through and what the grownup said to these kids, name calling, verbal abuse and just lack of knowledge in raising kids. everybody was not lucky like you and me and many others, who's mom's knew instinctively what to do and how much discipline to exert on the child. I love you Ducky.

commented 6 years ago

Ducky

@tabber....I only WISH that I had been what you refer to as 'lucky'. In addition, I have a close relative who has worked with the equivalent of your CPS, rescuing abused children. Believe me....I know.

commented 6 years ago

sunnyB

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A gentle slap is ok, but nothing too aggressive.

6 years ago. Rating: 5
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mycatsmom

Sunny, if it's on the butt, not on the face or head

commented 6 years ago

sunnyB

Yes I agree mcm.

commented 6 years ago

Bob/PKB

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Apparently, you are referring to using a spanking as punishment, discipline for a child.

My mind went elsewhere....

6 years ago. Rating: 3
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mycatsmom

What books have you been reading ?

commented 6 years ago

tabber

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no, they say spankings cause too many problems for the child related to learning and also emotional problems later in life. we had some spankings in my family and we got some problems in my family.