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I would suggest that the two partners make an appointment with a lawyer and/or an accountant. This situation probably requires more than opinions from volunteers.

Try to figure out what the sweat equity equals in money, if a skilled worker had done the work.

I agree with the answers Clonge, Ducky, and Benthere have given you.  Determining the monetary value of the sweat equity and getting a legal agreement between the two sounds like the best way to work toward parity.  I would NOT suggest the two decide what the sweat value was worth, as that is too subjective.

 in a good partnership one compliments the other,,you have to wonder if one could have worked without the other..and take it from there..>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<..

Quite often without sweat the cash would not be there,

Ducky

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I love this question. I love it because i have seen so many couples break up because one puts in more money than the other. It's tricky and a touchy situation. My mom said regarding  social responsibility, that the more one has, the more responsibility one has". From my observation that applies to relationships as well. One thing you have to make sure the cashless one is not there to merely 'take advantage'. However, if the cashless person contributes worthwhile and valuable services to the household, (like, cooking, cleaning, child care while partner is working, helping the partner feel secure and safe, being the great companion on dates and other social outings THAT'S HUGH!)  People think cash is the end all be all, and it might be. But, people need to be creative and open their eyes. I know couples where the woman works and the man does little odd jobs, but they work with that. I know women with lots of money, but they don't want to share with a man, but claim they're lonely or can't get a date or some other silly excuse like, they want a rich man. Grow up ladies, and some men, but mostly men will share money or whatever with a woman. Two men, maybe the same dynamics. I like what Joan Collins, the actress from the hit show Dynasty said when a lady ask her what should she do, because the guy she was dating could not pay for some theater tickets for a night on the town. Joan who was talking on a question and answer show told her "you buy the tickets, that part of the deal in a relationship. If one can't buy the other can and should."  That's if you prefer happiness over loneliness. We have 20 million lonely people in the US alone. Don't get me wrong, being alone is not loneliness. But selfishness often equals loneliness. Avoid it. Share and appreciate what the other can bring to your table.