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    Do you make eye contact with strangers?

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    Do you speak to them? Is it customary in your area?


    Or do you act as though they are invisible?


     

    +8  Views: 1283 Answers: 12 Posted: 9 years ago
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    I tend to make eye contact with everyone, however, this is not a usual thing here in Scotland, many people avert their eyes from strangers, I must be an unusually friendly type, although I don't normally speak to passing strangers other than a customary "Hiya, or good morning (afternoon etc).

    Ducky

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    It seems to me that it is becoming more customary in my area, for people to avert rather than speak, nod or acknowledge. I find it rather sad actually.
    mycatsmom

    Ducky, that's the way it is around here.
    country bumpkin

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    ROMEOS is "not" unusually friendly. LOL

    Oh, man! Texans make eye contact as a rule. Frustrating in New York 'cause one is supposed to be invisible there.....

    ROMOS

    YEP!!
    Ducky

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    So I've heard.
    Flip

    I trust you speak of the "City" and not the nice part of the state!
    jhharlan

    I am. Was great in the surrounding states....
    mycatsmom

    Jh,You actually make eye contact in public with like someone on a subway car or something ? !
    jhharlan

    I make eye contact with anyone I speak to. I speak with strangers as a matter of fact.....
    Ducky

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    Same here. I wouldn't even think about looking away, if someone looked at me and smiled. I also chat with strangers.

    I pass many strangers during my daily walks with my dog (<---- Max, pictured left). I always speak, if only a hello or good morning etc. Most reply but some (usually school students) divert their eyes and utter a weak hello. I have met and become friends with many whom I never would have known without those daily walks .... and having a cute dog helps much.

    Ducky

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    I find young people especially shocked when I say hello. I guess I can't remember anymore, how shy I was, as a young girl. Now I'll talk to anyone who is willing! lol
    hector5559

    you must have a long memory Miss Ducky,

    IIn Aussie we have a tendency to just nod at somebody,,or say G'day,,out on the back roads .some of us still give a passing truckie or car a coupla fingers above the steering wheel,,<<<<<<<<>>>>>>>>..

    Ducky

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    I picture the fingers above the steering wheel. I once lived in the country and the "city folks" made fun of us with our unique signal to others. :)
    terryfossil 1

    It is a life the city folk no very little about,,we were the last to have to put locks on our doors..>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<..
    Ducky

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    Things have changed now. Everyone is locking their doors here, unless they are very naive.
    mycatsmom

    Ducky, there was a time when you didn't' lock your doors ? ! We always locked our doors. Even in the 50s, my mom locked them , and it was a time when society was a lot calmer then, and there wasn't much crime in my town.
    Ducky

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    @mcm...My community is much smaller than yours. I remember visiting in Detroit in the '60s and being shocked at seeing security bars on store windows! I'd never even heard of such a thing!
    Now we have them too. :(
    Bob/PKB

    My folks didn't lock their doors for decades, even though they were robbed shortly after getting married. Nowadays, you almost need a loaded gun beside you when sitting on the couch watching TV or reading a book.
    Ducky

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    Angry and violent society we live in. Sad.

    Mostly,  but there are a few wiedos  around here who you wouldn't want to make any sort  of contact with. 

    Ducky

    Moderator
    Same here. :)

    I Just curtsey,in my flaied jeans,

    Ducky

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    Much better than ignoring.

    When I'm up and feeling good I greet people. When I'm feeling down ... not so much.

    many times i make eye contact if i am in close contact 3 to 4 feet away. i tend to say hello to people when taking walks. i start conversations with people all the time. in my area, silicon valley, many people are starting to be more friendly and start conversations in grocery stores, post office etc. i think many are starting to realize being a snob in not the greatest thing. i think television and news is helping people grow  and tolerate difference in others more.

    Ducky

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    Not so sure about the "tolerant" part. As I watch the news, I see many angry, intolerant people. :(
    tabber

    Ducky you are certainly right about intolerance, but it might be working both ways. People are very upset and irritable about so many things, however, there is always a set of people that develop more tolerance and understanding as society rages on.

    Often, I make eye contact, and always respond to a greeting, or offer a smile first. I will speak to strangers, generally to offer a compliment.


    Julie is very cordial. It was fun to have many subway conversations with people during our trip!

    itsmee

    Where did you go? Subways?
    Bob/PKB

    We went to NYC and used subway transportation! How you been
    digger

    Subways...Quiznos...That's NOT the point,Itsmee!
    Ducky

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    What is the point, digger? McDs?
    mycatsmom

    Hi, (((((((Itsmee))))))). I missed you !
    Bob/PKB

    Two peas in a pod
    Just a little odd
    ...guess who
    Ducky

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    Um...Bob & jh? Digger & Ducky?
    ROMOS

    MCM & ITSMEE!!!!!!!!!!!
    Bob/PKB

    Ding ding ding!!!!!!!!!
    KOTF rules
    Ducky

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    I just didn't want to be sarcastic. It's not like me!
    Bob/PKB

    Or me, Ducky. (wild laughter that actually scares you)
    Ducky

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    With tears rolling down eyes!

    I must admit I'm the friendliest person I've met so far while in Scotland.


     Texans are known as some of the friendliest people on earth and I'm no exception. I've traveled many Texas highways over the years and one of my favorite things to do was to wave at cars and trucks going past me in the other direction and seeing them wave back. When my aunt and I traveled together, for a fun game we would count how many people waved back (if they hadn't  waved first).


     When I first moved to Scotland I would try to make eye contact with every person who crossed my path and IF that person looked at me I would smile and say hello and/or wave. The problem is only about 1 out of 5 people will look my way and not one person in 2 1/2 years has waved to Roy and me. Roy even advised me to stop waving because waving is not a "done thing here". Sad really!

    digger

    I'll bet they thought you had just broken out of the Gartloch Hospital
    country bumpkin

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    I think Roy sometimes thinks I came straight from the asylum. LOL
    Ducky

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    LOL!

    I don't make eye contact with strangers, unless it's a server, or a cashier, or unless I have to ask a stranger something in public.

    Ducky

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    Never even acknowledge a tourist?
    digger

    Tourists don't go to Michigan.
    Ducky

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    Because we don't know where it is.
    country bumpkin

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    ...and you wonder MCM!

    No. As for her, it didn't work! ""As for the others, I don't know.

    Ducky

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    You're so mean.
    Ducky

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    REALLY mean!!!


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