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After my best friend died in 2005 I visited her grave every couple of months until 2008 when I moved away from Ft. Worth.  Visiting her grave site helped me to grieve her death and I always walked away from there not feeling so alone. 

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She had moved to Ft. Worth a few years before me and had asked me to move there after my divorce. Her daughter and my son were born one month apart, they were great friends and went to school together. She and I used to talk about them growing up and falling in love with each other and maybe get married then we would all be family. She had remarried so when she died her ex husband took their daughter and moved to Houston. My son and her have not seen each other since.

 G'day MsBob, I'm afraid i hav'nt been to the cemetary for a number of years to see the plaques on a wall where my parents ashes are inturned, i don't want to seem callous or insensitive, but they are only ashes, they are never coming back, the only thing i cherish is the loving memories of them that will continue until my own demise.

I respect anyone who takes comfort from visiting and tending to a grave of a loved one...I don`t like the idea myself...In our family we go for Cremations...I just feel the person is in my head and heart all the time and I can still talk to them in my head!...I`d find it too depressing sitting at a grave as that`s not how I knew the person in life!...Just my opinion!

I miss my  parents very much too......especially my mom. I have to drive right by the cemetary every now and then, so I drop in to say high and see that their graves are being properly tend to. I don't really talk to my parents and my grandma while I'm there. I just say Hi. ......b/c I know their body is just a house that their soul lived in . And their soul is in heaven..

 People steal artificial flowers and crosses, etc that I have put on their grave.They even stole little artifacts that my friends put on their son's grave last April - - -2013. Their son was 34   :-(    It's been a year now since he died  :' -(  

Yes, as part of the grieving process, I think it necessary.  This of course decreases as time goes on.  I have still tried to visit most graves of family at least once per year, I say a prayer over their grave, clean the stone with bleach, to remove any mildew, spruce up the grass, and plant flowers.  

Both of my parents, even my step dad were cremated. As was my sister. I don’t know where the ashes are though I have a cup of my mother’s. My natural dad ended up in the Gulf Of Mexico at the time of Hurricane Andrew, I just know he’ll like it in Hawaii………..

I usually stay away from cemeteries because I often experience strange happenings. I donated money to my college, in my Dad's name. They sent me a letter stating they used the money to buy photography books for their library. Interesting side note was that my dad was a photographer.

Sorry Bob,i believe the bible,let the dead care for the dead,let the living look after the living,>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< .always nice talking Bob...........

If you see and know "dead people" like I do, you wouldn't bother. My personal favorite is incineration 4 days after death and dump the ashes in the sea or river etc. The less said the better.