silvi aurel
4 Answers
ROMOS
Bob/PKB
Do you know what a number line is? 
If someone is 4 on the emotional level, 10 being ready to climb a bell tower with an assault rifle, I'm probably going to respond around -2. That puts the combined emotional level at 2; irritation, but still manageable. The more disruptive and distraught the other person becomes, the further I go in the opposite direction. I think it's because the closer we can balance to "0", the more peaceful things are going to be.
If I start moving up the emotional number line, it makes ME sick. Besides, when I maintain a detached/aloof position when the other person is "having a cow", I'm in control.
If the other person is sending me high emotional level text messages, the calmer I remain, the more upset the other one becomes. NOW, I save those irrational messages and, voila! my adversary hasn't a leg to stand upon; see how nice I was and see how ugly (s)he was. (I have some ready for police to see, a judge to rule upon, and people who think my sister is so wonderful to get a rude awakening)
| 10 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
mycatsmom
It's difficult when they're yelling and swearing at you, and they don't give you a chance to say anything.Because if you do , they'll yell over you or smack you. What you do when they have a temper tantrum at you over something trivial ......is walk out of the room.Or get out of the car and take a cab home. Or leave the house for a couple of hours.
| 10 years ago. Rating: 1 | |
Clonge
