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My friend's daughter in the U.S. is planning to marry an illegal alien who is living in the U.S.

This marriage is strictly a ruse to ultimately enable him to get a Green Card, which would make him a resident, the first step on his way to U.S. citizenship. My friend admitted this to me. On the one hand, he is a great guy, works 7 days a week, long hours, has been taken advantage of by his employers who know he is deportable, and he sends money back to his family in Central America. On the other hand, he is breaking the law, and I was in Federal law enforcement; part of my duties entailed the lawful admission of foreigners into this country and "the law is the law". I do not want to go to the wedding based upon my beliefs, nor do I want to give a gift. I also do not want to hurt my friend's feelings. What would you do?

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sunnyB

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I would be tempted to report them to the authorities, I would certainly make it clear to them that it is illegal and immoral.

10 years ago. Rating: 8
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ROMOS

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If this is strictly a "business" arrangement and there is no love involved between the couple, then they are both breaking the law, as it seems are her family who know this marriage is a farce, personally I just wouldn't get involved and I would tell my friend the truth why. You on the other hand have to wrestle with your conscience.

10 years ago. Rating: 7
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Clonge

It is strictly "business" and they know that they are breaking the law. Would you or would you not go to the wedding +/or give a gift? If not, would you send "CB" as your representative? LOL!

commented 10 years ago

ROMOS

I wouldn't go, and I wouldn't give a gift either, what's the point, it's a farce!
CB wouldn't go either ;)

commented 10 years ago

Tommyh

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I think if your field is (or was) Federal Law Enforcement then you have a duty of disclosure.Weren't you sworn in? Does that oath mean anything to you? Don't take these questions as me trying to be antagonistic.It's just that rules is rules.If you were still in law enforcement & you heard of 2 complete strangers entering into this arrangement you would act.I think your friend should be consulted first.Make it clear what your duty is & act.

10 years ago. Rating: 6
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Clonge

I am retired. I took an oath, which applied to my employment. There are plenty of illegal aliens who gather in various communities on Long Island, where I live, to do gardening work for gardening companies. I'm not aware of any raids regarding them, and raids in restaurants that are "known" to employ illegals appear to be a thing of the past. There are "bigger fish to fry." If I was still employed, I doubt that my friend would've told me about the relationship.

commented 10 years ago

Tommyh

It puts you in a difficult position.I wonder what I would do in that situation.It's all very well handing out advice but if it was applied to me....I just wonder.Good luck with it.

commented 10 years ago

bustieone

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Here you have a chance to make a difference by one, and more (as the relatives will arrive soon after the wedding) report it and do not look back. My daughter dated a professional from outside the US, who was on a visa, and looking for a bride, his buddy offered my niece $10K to marry him for citizenship. This needs to end! Do it now!

10 years ago. Rating: 6
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Clonge

I would do it, but I really value my friend's friendship, and she values mine. I never thought of the possible additional relatives though.

commented 10 years ago

bustieone

My late brother-in-law had gone to Asia to marry a internet bride, and upon his return, he got very sick, he was then, but it progressed to end his life. As he lay in his death bed, one last document came in the mail, he never lived to sign it. We later found that she had a minor son who was part of the package, and she looked to us for sponsorship, we declined that offer!

commented 10 years ago

mycatsmom