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Those people aren't friends.  They ditch you after they get what they want from you because they want nothing else from you or to do with you and only "befriended" you to get something from you.   Be careful what you give away in relationships.  Most of the time, you can't get it back.  If you don't give something and lose the relationship, or if you DO give something and lose the relationship, it wasn't a relationship/friendship in the first place.

11 years ago. Rating: 9
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They weren’t friends to begin with. You’ve been sought out for all your worth at little cost……...

11 years ago. Rating: 7
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because they are selfish and they are takers.......not givers.

You need to meet someone who is a giver, not a taker .And you need to be a giver too.....to meet him half-way.

11 years ago. Rating: 6
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Friendships like all human relationships are very complex.  We have been conditioned in society to function at a 3rd grade level and give elementary simplistic answers to complex questions partly due to our socialization from television.  We all have all types of friends over our life time. Some we keep for a lifetime. Some we keep while we work with them on a job. Some we keep til we get married.  We keep some only while we are married.  Its the same with siblings. Some see their siblings regularly. Some see siblings only every 10 years.  Its not really about 'them'. It's about 'us'.  It's kind of about survival. Back in the day of American slavery (now don't get stuck people on slavery), you were a slave or slave owner, (for the purpose of this argument) not friends. Slave owners made money from slave labor.  No hugging, no dating, no kissing, no friends, just work and keep your place.  Now in the 20th century many former slave owners see the benefit of having former slaves as friends . . . To purchase their goods and services. Now we see friendships between all sorts of people. We see hugging, dating, kissing and friendships.  If a friendship has some benefit we engage in it.  If it does not benefit us on some level there is no hugging, kissing nor dating, nor friendship.   Most of the situations we get ourselves involved with is about us, and our benefit, not them.  Friendship is a survival tool that has enabled humans to be able to survive better over the last thousand years or so. Think about it and be kind to your friends.

11 years ago. Rating: 5
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You think they want to be friends but they really only want to get a response to their story and possibly another's opinion. So answering questions or stating opinions is a full time job if you are advanced enough to handle the task. Some just have an unanswered question. Some don’t know why they are drawn to talk to you. It’s an opportunity to give what folk need and have sought you out for an answer. Think about it. You have something they need and you need to give them. I sat in book and antique stores for years talking with people, asking and answering questions. It’s a way of life and I enjoyed that too. Coffee and doughnuts if you like a crowd.  

11 years ago. Rating: 4
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They never were your friends only opportunists. So be careful who you have as friend.

11 years ago. Rating: 4
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