that you shouldn't give less than $350 per couple. She goes to fancy weddings; one was for 2 doctors who got married on the waterfront in Newport, R.I. She and others, apparently think that guests should have to "pay for their plates." I say if they want to throw a fancy wedding, that's their problem, and they shouldn't count on guests to offset their costs. There's no guarantee that you're going to get what you think you're going to get. I'm going through a rough time right now, and have no qualms about giving $100.
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8 Answers
I believe that any wedding guest should feel free to give exactly what they can comfortably afford to give. Every year, weddings are becoming more and more extravagant, almost as though each couple is trying to out-do the next. However, the guests need not get caught up in any "gift giving competition".
11 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
This is a great question to which there is no universal or "American" monetary average. Wedding ceremonies differ drastically from one another. The well to do or wealthy wannabees, typically outdo themselves in their "once in a lifetime" ritual. Forget about the statistical reality that over 50% will end in divorce. The present moment is all about LUUUUV.
Most financially modest young couples (aka poor and broke) , order up a basic quarter chicken and baked potato dinner with a pay-as-you-drink bar. Guests usually know what to expect and stuff their envelope accordingly light.
Either way, you need to know what to expect and gift commensurately. Always "cover your plate" or stay home. If you can't afford the appropriate price of admission, there's nothing wrong with abstaining and mailing in a nominal gift. By breaking this cardinal rule you will be committing the gravest social faux-pas of all. In Italian, it's called "Brutta figura"; embarrassing impression.
11 years ago. Rating: 5 | |