angie7
i was moved from abusive homes time and time again due to my mothers love of work and money that allways came first. i went to live with abusive sexually andphysical abuse my mom did not believe it and she never checked the peoples backround. i ran away at 14years old and needless to say my life changed for the worse the more i looked for love the more it brought pain. i found my mom after not seeing her since i was 14 or not talkoing to her since 12 years ago i am 42years old so she answered the phone and said i want nothing to do with you. i thought when i ran away i was doing it for her she does not know me so how could she dismiss me like that
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country bumpkin
Best answer!
When I was 12, I met and stayed with my biological father for 2 weeks. It ended in disaster because his wife was so jealous of me, she tried to choke me to death on my 13th birthday. For many years after this, I tried to get my father to talk to me, to visit me, to show he loves me , but he refused. He said he hated me and that I had ruined his life. I stayed heart broken well into my 30's not understanding how a parent could not love his/her own flesh and blood. When he died 7 years ago, I was able to get in contact with my half brother and sister and the 2 of them understand how my heart hurt for all those years. My half sister informed me that our father had pictures hidden of me in his work shop and that he had always loved me and he wanted to have a relationship with me, but his wife was so jealous( because he had a child with someone before her) that she would not allow him to keep in contact with me. Maybe she threatened to leave him, I don't know. I'm telling you this story because there is a good chance that your mother really does love you, but her boyfriend or husband is threatening to leave her if she has anything to do with you. She may be afraid of losing her home and her security and unfortunately this trumps her relationship with you. I truly hope that before she is gone that she will make amends to you for the pain she has put you through.
| 11 years ago. Rating: 17 | |
sawali
jhharlan
itsmee
Benthere: I was going to say “All moms love their children. But, of course, there are people (even moms!) who have mental illness and are incapable of love. Angie, we can’t know that but you might consider that as a possibility. I suspect that your mom might be depressed, stressed, or angry with someone-not you.
Wow! I just thought of a time when my mom didn’t love me. It didn’t bother me because I didn’t love her. We were both going through hormonal changes. I was becoming an adolescent 11-12, She was going through Menopause. (Difficult age for women)
She wanted to do away with both of us. Terrible to say but true. After we got through those phases we had a fairly normal, fairly loving relationship.
When I was 12 I washed my dad’s wool suit in the washing machine and hung it on the line. Oh my! My family did not have a lot of money and this was not good -- not good at all!
| 11 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
witchway
pythonlover
No doubt this situation is weighing you down terribly but I would suggest you try not to make it consume too much of your time and energy. It is not worth it. Getting depressed over the matter will not help. The truth is, your mom has lived most of her life and it is now time for you to live yours with as little stress as possible.
| 11 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
sirduke7
A very old mate once told me: 'Tis luck to pick something new up every day; 'tis wisdom to leave something old in it's place". Life is truly about letting go. Sometimes more important than holding on.
Your Ma's life is over and you have just begun. In spite of the tragedy that she put you through; you still go back to the dry well for nourishment. 'tis hard to imagine a harder row to hoe. Pick up that hoe and look to the horizon. No sense asking a starving dog for a bone.
God bless you now.child. You're your own woman now.
| 11 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
If she ever comes to you looking for love, I hope you’ll turn away from her. She doesn’t deserve you. I am so sorry things went like that for you.
I hope that you can go forward and find a loving partner. Change your phone number. it makes me boil to think of your mom.