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Some guidelines of inclusive practice: telling children it's is ok to be unique and that everybody has their own qualities, ensuring all children get equal oppertunities and making them feel equal and valued, and encourage children to make friends with one another.

Those who don't include themselves can, many times, be victims of childhood neglect. They suffer from thinking that they don't measure up or are unwelcome by others to participate.

In time they can mentally defend themselves by inwardly adopting the new belief that they are better then most. This being an assertion to replace the feelings that they are inferior. It is defensive. Many of these types will only respond to a long term, consistent effort on the part of professionals who continually remind the client of the results of their reactions to neglect.

Cognitive/Behavioral treatment is most effective. Group therapy can help clients to hear others express the Feelings, Thinking and resulting reactive Behaviors that emerged as a result of traumatic Events during their childhood. The Events alone don't necessarily cause the unhealthy, reactive behaviors. The bad decisions that some make are directly the result of fearful and/or painful experiences that they were forced to try and process themselves without the help of parent or guardian.

The predictable results of emotional neglect are; fear-based decision making, re-actions to situations which trigger re-feeling of emotionally similar events.

The predominant thinking behind it is; "I'm never going to put myself in the painful/fearful position again!"

Social Model Treatment programs can be excellent examples of inclusive practice.