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You should think carefully about why he became your "ex" in the first place.  Has everything changed?  (Probably not.)

Best advice.....Move on Jenny.

Why did you two break up in the first place ?Have you resolved the issues you had ?There is no use trying to pick up where you left off.You will basically be back to the same old situation.I say put it behind you, and move on.

An ex is an ex for a reason...have you sorted that out yet? Time will tell...you sound young so go slow not fast...take your time and let your friendship with him grow...live life...don't let it pass by....However..If the reason for the breakup entailed abusive behaviours of any kind then you better walk..no, RUN away from this one!! Peace and Love baby.

I'm going out on a psychic limb here:  Whatever caused your break-up and the break-up it's self really really upset you.  Your best friend helped you through it all- the tears, the anger, & the despair.  Now he wants to contact you again and all your girlfriend wants to do is protect you from another awful break-up with him.  She wants you to sit down and talk to him and clarify what happened and why.  She doesn't want to see you hurt again.

You, on the other hand are considering "the dance"- getting back together with him because you both still seem to have feelings for each other.  99% of the time "the dance" ends the same way it did the first time.  Trust me when I was young I didn't listen to my friends and did 'the dance" with a guy.

Here is what I learned:  Best friends have your best interest in mind so listen to them and really consider the advice that they give you.  Consider your motives for getting back together AND his. Are you sick of being alone?  Are you missing the physical side of the relationship?  Are you putting your dreams into the relationship?  Do you really care for him?  Is he the very best guy ever that you can imagine?  Now turn it around and think how he might respond.  Chances are you two aren't meant to be together.  Do you really want to get back into a relationship with him wasting valuable time and energy just to go through another tear jerking break-up?  Take it slow. Really slow.  Talk to him.  If it's right you"ll know as time goes on but keep your options open!  Date other people. Hang with your best friend.  Enjoy life!

Run Jenny Run!

I agree with you only on this part, ""She wants you to sit down and talk to him and clarify what happened and why. She doesn't want to see you hurt again" We are not all fortunate to have friends that are selfless and know each side of the equasion. At the end of the day slow to speak and listen for a long time is benificial to all no matter what they decide. .

and your girlfriends have great relationships, no ups, no downs? You must follow what your heart feels and be honest with the things that make you happy and unhappy. Your friends dont want you to be better than they are, they will make your guy look like crap so their crap does'nt stink! You can get anyone and they can't, your heart knows and thats all it is to be happy.

Colleen

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Colleen

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I did'nt do that? The bottom answer was part of the first how it got there I have no idea sorry?

My opinion matches that of the folks who have the most life experiences; they are in agreement that you should see red flags waving all over the sky.  
You said "friends" again.  Keep it that way. Do NOT re-enter the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship for a long, long time...like a year.  Respect yourself above all others.   

I except people however they are I do not judge them, but I do impress on them who I am and my ideals and if they can live with that then we can be friends for life. If they think I am not telling them the truth, then they will find out the hard way.... That means whatever they lie about, thats on them and I do not want to add to their mix.

what is " sown times" ?  Is that like  " whatever you sow, so shall you reap ?

I know what you what you mean?

keep things on a friendly basis, don't let your life revolve around "what if" let him make his intentions clear, but live your life, keep your friends and social circle, there are obviously reasons why he's your ex boyfriend, you could include him in your life if you wish, but he should know your hanging by a thread waiting. 

Whats wrong having fun on the side? Just being the devils advocate for a thought...

do what what you heart tells you to do, be your self, speak what is on your mind, let all the bad things go, forgive each other and start oon new but this time dont do the same thing that seperate you two again, i mean it valentine forgive, start off new, tell that person that you love them, and give them a hug and a kiss, so dont listen to your frinds, dont let them solve your problem, remember just be you.