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My son's ex-wife is getting remarried. The wedding is very small & direct family only. We are not invited. Do we send a wedding gift?

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country bumpkin

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In my opinion, you should not send a gift. I doubt your ex daughter-in-law and her new husband want to be reminded of her ex husband or his family each time they look at or use a wedding gift that has come from her ex husbands family.

12 years ago. Rating: 7
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MB0928

This is a fairly good point. She may not have invited you for a reason, but it also depends on the relationship you had and have with her now. Perhaps it would be better to send the gift to her house after the wedding. Good point CB.

-MB

commented 12 years ago

country bumpkin

Thanks

commented 12 years ago

rtipaldi

ironically, my son and I have the very best relationship with both his ex-wife and the new husband. my son is not invited either and ok w/ that because of his teen age children.

commented 12 years ago

millie111

Very nice thought though!:-)

commented 12 years ago

MB0928

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Sure. If you were close enough to her to need to ask, I would send something as long as it is not your intention to make her feel bad for not inviting you. Furthermore, it seems as if you have already decided it is the right thing to do, but don't forget to keep your son's feelings in mind.

Pray I'm right,

12 years ago. Rating: 3
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country bumpkin

"as long as it is not your intention to make her feel bad for not inviting you"
Good point!

commented 12 years ago

mycatsmom

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No, you don't , cuz your weren't invited. You would send one if you were invited, and you couldn't make it to the wedding.

12 years ago. Rating: 2
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doolittle

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That is a very nice thought. If you choose to send a gift i might chose one from a registry or get something simle like a picture frame or wine glasses.