AldeWicht
Hi, I need help with my emotions and I think it might effect in my future.
In the past I was bullied a lot (I was defending myself, though I wasn't hurting them).
And I kept that rage, sadness and grudge in me. (I'm a very kind person, I wouldn't dare who hurt others, even the bullies themselves!)
I thought to myself, that maybe video games would release that rage, but it made it worse. Then I took boxing which would probably also release the anger in me. But I couldn't feel the anger (cause I wasn't angry with the bag, lulz)
More and more violence I see with people killing other people, seeing others getting robbed. I felt so much blood thirst, but thanks to the blood thirst, I've made some friends. But I'm afraid I might hurt them.
In primary school, a guy 2 years older than me was bugging me and was threatening me. So I went really really angry. And all of a sudden, it went black. When I woke up, my teacher was there. Told me that he stopped my punch on the kid, that I didn't look like myself. And oh yeah this isn't the first time. It was like a BLACK-OUT or something.
So, is there anything. Can you guys give me any tips? To try give me tips.
P.S There is one thing that made me sad a lot, a lot of people were fearing me. Maybe because i was tall, i was 200 centimeters.
9 Answers
Dardaigh
Best answer!
AldeWicht, it's commendable that you want to seek help
for your anger issues. Don't give up on speaking to a therapist.
They are trained to teach you how to deal with this.There are
lots of sites on the web that you can visit, to give you tips on
how to calm yourself and also to teach you about
self-confidence,etc. If you have confidence, you are able to
ignore the ridiculous rubbish others throw at you. Remember,
they are trying to put you down or belittle you because of their
own self-esteem issues. Talk to your parents, they can help.
Lastly, it's good that you realize all the negative activities...ie.
the video games are only feeding into the situation. It leaves
you too isolated, in a world that is not real. Maybe volunteering
for something positive, say teaching younger children how to
read at your school, will set you down the path of a more
positive path in your life. Have you ever heard of the phrase,
"You are what you eat?" Well, just as importantly, "You are what
you think"! Fill your mind with negative thoughts and the
outcome is not good. Fill it with positivity and you can change
things around for yourself, within you. Your brain is there as
a sponge to soak up what you want it to, so believe that you
can make a change for the better and you are already halfway
there.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
mycatsmom
We're here for ya. But, you need proffesional counceling to sort all that out. There are many issues here. Please make an appt soon with some kind of talk therapist.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
I have witnessed individuals that have become so enraged that it actually changed their facial appearance where they looked like a stranger. Get help, you need it. Prisons and the nut house are full of people that lost it one time too many.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
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I'm an old man now and don't socialize as much as I used to when I was younger, so running into someone who's going to pi$$ me off is slight. I don't believe I ever had any pent up anger, if you needed a beating, I beat heck out of you, not some poor schmuck because you didn't have the jewels to stand up to the person you had an issue with.
jhharlan
robertgrist
I learned to control my anger by using it to destroy trash. A garbage dump near my home was littered with empty beer and wine bottles. So I wold go there and pile up a bunch of bottles and while thinking about my anger I would throw rocks at the bottles. The crash-and-tinkle was a refreshing satisfaction that brought me back to that dump repetitively over many months….when ever I felt like a bottle bash. Then I started to see that by transferring my anger into that harmless act of destruction I could think about breaking glass and my moment of anger was gone. I saw what you said about video games and they did nothing for me either. A lot of my anger was about frustration and self esteem. I found for me, that I could not depend on the praise or appreciation of others. That I have to appreciate my own work and intentions because the world can be backward and crass when it comes to appreciation. I don’t look forward to it and I simply like my own ways of doing things.
My brother nearly killed me by locking me in an old ice box when I was eight. He was 15 and I was very angry with him but choose to set my anger aside rather than take revenge. Then, 10 years later, while trying to figure out why I was so up-set with other people…I remembered my anger and how upset I was with my brother. If he had just lived down the street rather than 3000 miles away, I would have rushed over and assaulted him. That flood of anger was so intense that I was out of control for three days and I was so happy my brother was no where near.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
RimeboundNinja
Colleen
My father beat the crap out of me, well of his kids for years. He verbally abused us too. One kid teasing me (instead of living with my father's rage) would have been a blessing. Your whole post shows an abnormalcy for dealing with negative emotions . My guess is you have a chemical imbalance in your brain that medicine can help. See a doctor. You have the rage my father had (the blacking out. He did that too). He blamed his rage on the fact that his mother was the disciplinarian and not his father (Seriously? He thought that was why? Wuss!) So this made him mad at the world. Any excuse works until you find out it's an imbalance or a simple choice of not wanting to control oneself. I got beat and yelled at almost daily for 18 years. I did not grow up with the same anger that you apparently have. Actually after what I went through and reading what you went through, I'd have to say you're a wimp for not handing your emotions Man up and take charge of yourself! Why do you think I'm not my father to this day? I put everything in it's place and refused to become my father. You need to refuse to be the bully that teased you. You also need to see a doctor for a chemical imbalance or to see if you are bi-polar. There's a lot of that going around today. Whatever it is, I do not see enough here to warrant being so violent and so out of touch with your emotions. . You need to get over it.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
I'm more of a person who gets hurt psychically.
doolittle
pej
Seek professional counseling. They're there to help you. Volunteer to do goods in your community will help or boost your self-esteem. I applaud you for relealizing your situation and reach out for help; i'm sure it's not easy for you to ask for help but you DO THE RIGHT THING. You might be suprised that you're not alone. Many ppl like you in same predicaments. I'm sure you are a good person and have a lot of good potentials in you. Talk to your parents or trusted adults/friends about it, perhaps they too can assist you and direct you to the right paths. Do you attend church? talk to them...
I hope this helps and many good lucks. Hugs
| 12 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
They are not professionals. They should never speak to the troubled and try to guide them. They typically do more harm than good because they do not know how to deal with angry people. Telling someone to pray does not help. This is their answer: read the book and pray. Not helpful.
