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Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or disappear love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love.

Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addendums, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.

Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, nor even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.

Love is really hard work...like listening when you feel like doing something else...like knowing that the moment you invest your love in someone, you risk losing them...like having to change your plans to care for someone elses' needs...like forgiving and forgetting...perhaps knowing what love is not would be helpful...love is not...jealous, or evil, unkind or cruel, love is not sex and love is no game, love is interest and concern, .love is communion with a beloved one, love is patience and being kind to each other...having consideration for a beloved ones' feelings and boundaries....love does not include abusive behaviours!!!