bxgirl
16 Answers
Dardaigh
melandrupert
Its a shame but all over the world most teenagers are pregnant or have young children and the girls he is looking for are propably the only ones that are free as the others are married or still at college he should start hanging out at college bars rather than getting himself tied down or the other reason he likes these girls woth kids they are very grateful in finding someone like your son!
| 12 years ago. Rating: 19 | |
Colleen
I want to know how insecurity would play into this? It takes a secure man to try and take on a ready made family.
Why do you say, "brings home" like they are some sort of stray animal? Perhaps insecurity belongs to you.
If all he is meeting is young women who have children, then that tells me there are far to many young women out there having children. If they are all divorced, then that tells me, the sanctity of marriage continues to be destroyed by loose straight people who have no respect for the institute of Holy Matrimony or marriage.
Lastly, are you sure it's not the kids he wants? If he's only targeting women with children as you say, then perhaps there is a problem like you think there is. Maybe he likes the kiddies more than mom.
Maybe you are a controlling mother who is far to involved in her 21 year old son's life. If he is still living in your house, boot him out. He's a man. He needs his own home and you need something else to do.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
lambshank
Shootah
Well, as a habit I think we all tend to stereotype people into groups, while there are more and deeper reasons people seek types of prospective mates out. All men are not the same, just as all women aren't. I don't think it would be fair to anyone, to try and pidgeon-hole someone based upon minimal descriptions...everyone, including ourselves are just a little more than that. Everyone has just a little more reasoning going on in their heads, as to why they make certain choices.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 15 | |
Ed1530
Puran
Hi,
Did you had a talk with him about the matter?
How does he find those girls/woman? Did he go to special places where those woman are often there? How is your relation? Does he loves you so much that he maybe without doing it on purpose try to reach a same situation as you has and he loves mothers and also children? Could it be that he formed the opinion that he feels the wish of you to have a partner if you alone, so his social feelings like to 'help' in that case?
Yes it could be that he feels insecure, but as I wrote above, there are more options, not at all negative. Talk to him in a free way without showing a judgment.
Greetings Puran.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 15 | |
millie111
Maybe he feels more secure when he has a girlfriend with kids...who may show him more appreciation than some O girls without kids may be.....Maybe he is insecure and /or likes playing the Father figure...or maybe just coincidence that he`s followed this pattern so far...He may find the college bar less preferable to time with someone he has strong feelings for..and is more mature than his peers!....Does it really matter if this is the case...?Do you think he seems happy...that`s the main thing....as long as he appreciates that he is taking on more responsibility as the children may grow fond of him too...and it matters that he doesn`t wake up one day and feel it`s all too much responsibility..The Children matter...and maybe badly affected should he leave them!...It must be hard for you to have these concerns...It`s certainly not an easy one....you know him best....Can you have a Mother to Son chat with him...it sounds like a good idea..imho:-¬....
all good wishes...millie xx
| 12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Chiangmai
You want to know why as opposed to what? For him to like guys with kids?
| 12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
digger
I have a few friends that have done the same and are still happily married. Mind you, every single one of the women are knockout gorgeous and with great personalities to go with it. Makes me wonder why the fools let them get away in the first place.
I've been told that they were all despicable scumbags (the guys,of course)but I haven't heard their side of the story. Either way, one would think that there would have been some telling sign along the way.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
Bob/PKB
I got to thinking that most of the women he dates are a bit older, but then realized that nowadays it's really cool to be a Baby Momma when you are 16.
It these are the girls he's dating, let's hope they have matured to the point of seeing the sun shine.
My actual thought is that he may be attracted to women with children because he knows (maybe just subconsciously) he isn't expected to be there 24/7 (as a totally single woman may want); he still has some freedom due to HER lack thereof!
| 12 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
lindilou
Perhaps he wants the ready made family as some have suggested...or maybe he wants someone he can actually rely on...like a 'mom' archetype with responsibilities and goals in life for herself and her children...perhaps he is more reliable than you think. On the other hand, perhaps he seeks vulnerable women who 'need' the presence of a male around as a sort of 'false' sense of security...he could be targeting 'welfare' mothers for an easy place to couch surf and eat for free...is he a freeloader? What does he do with his time? Does he work? Live at home? Tough one to answer succinctly...Peace Mom.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
azpro
tabber
Be thankful he is lucky enough to find someone he cares for and that cares for him. I have worked with kids that wish they had a girlfriend. We all learn about this planet in different and unique ways. Let him be himself. Ornasis, one of the riches shipping tycoons in the world, gave his son a fleet of airplanes to quit a woman he did not approve of. His 24 year old son went down in one of those planes. Ornasis heart was broken, but his beloved son was gone. Let your children live their own lives, get out of the way, and be helpful when you can.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 7 | |
And didn't Jackies' son die in a plane crash as well? Oh the karma!! Yikes!
mycatsmom
because then, he has a ready-made family. And he can play " daddy " without all the stress and comittment of making a committment, getting married, having his own kids to support and worry about . .....and all the bills . He can just play with his girl-friend's kids and have fun with them .......like grand parents do .
| 12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
KNIGHT WALKER
It may not be one or the other.Keep in mind that the way we as people view things in 2012 vs:1912. are amazingly different. From how we(MEN & WOMEN) meat to how or why we wed. Everyone is in such a hurry to get to the bed room. We have taken little or sometimes no time at all. To get to know ourselves let alone or "partner" in any real depth. So things usually fail before they really get going. Children an ex's are a common by product. Also how we deal with relationships now verses then. In this day and time it's so easy to get a devorce or having kids out of wedlock because working on us is to hard. better to move on it's simpler.In another day and time once you did it was finale. Go aginst the flow an be branded damaged goods. Or just no good at all.Taboo's change just like the times do. Wish we could learn to keep the best of the past to mix with the present.Making the future the real pressent
| 11 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
