just over 2 months ago i found out that i was pregnant but i was at a stage in my life that i knew that i couldnt handle caring for a child or be able to afford to have one. i dont want my children to be living on the streets or not having anything that they will need, i.e a roof over their heads. as i am still living with my parents i couldnt afford anything for the child so i decided to get it aborted. it was a mutual agreement between me and the father, even though my family dont see it that way. during the scan part they told me that i would be bleeding for up to 6 weeks after the abortion, but i only bleed for the day of the abortion and then it stopped. i dont know what this means please help. all i know is that i have had the implant put in and that i have been getting bigger still, if i was still pregnant then i would have been about 5 months gone now and my stomach looks like i am still pregnant. i dont know what to do. im scared to go to the doctors just incase they find something wrong with me
14 Answers
If the baby is still growing, it's second trimester of your pregnancy now. You need to discuss this with an adult (could be a person other than your parents). Don't try to do anything on your own. You could contact adoption agencies in your area. They may be able to offer you some options. Right now you have the baby to consider and it's top priority, not you or your parents. A church elder might be able to offer some advice too. Good luck.
12 years ago. Rating: 17 | |
Whatever is wrong with you now must be dealt with by a doctor ASAP. The fact that you and your boyfriend chose to abort is something both of your conscience will have to deal with at some point. I went through the exact same scenario at your age. I'm sixty one today and not a day goes by where I don't ask for forgiveness for this terrible thing we did. I'm not the "Morality Police" but my attitude changed after the abortion. This was my life I put to death.
12 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
It is not hard to understand how terrified you are. I would think your parents would have noticed that you are bigger; so would friends.
Bleeding for one day is NOT normal, and I wonder why your weren't seen after a recovery time of ten days or so.
Personally, I'm not happy with the implant for birth control, especially with you being young. Please consider another form of birth control, even abstinence, which isn't going to kill you, where darned near everything else could.
Take a pregnancy test. If it is positive, you need to get to an ob-gyn for care (and get that contraption out of your body). If you are NOT pregnant you need to get to a doctor to find out what is going on.
Be scared; I would be, too, particularly of what I might find out....but NOT taking care of this could kill you. Now, get the test, make the call, and call on your best friend for support. I hope you will also tell your parents. No one loves you more (and that's why they get so upset).
12 years ago. Rating: 13 | |
As the O`S SAY..PLEASE see a doctor right away....pregnancy hormones can remain in your bloodstream for 2 to 3 weeks so..a pregnancy test may prove inconclusive!..You`ve been through a lot...and are not through it yet...but you do need to find the cause of your distended abdomen immediately...AS Colleen says(With disclaimer)..You could have an infection and need antibios and treatment...(Blood poisoning/septicaemia ,could occur if left untreated)...You may or may not be pregnant still..it`s rare after a termination..but can happen..IT could be a number of things..(I CAN`T DIAGNOSE EITHER)!:-¬...But medical help and support via friends/family counselling sounds also very much needed to get you through the psychological side of things too!..PLEASE GO DOCTOR or E.R...I am worried for you!
all the very best wishes xx
12 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
It's your life Stacey.Take control & get the medical attention you need.Going by your photo you look to be about 14. Whatever age you are you are still much too young to be coping with this.Get to an OB/GYN clinic & get it sorted. Good luck.
12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
Stacie,
There are a lot of very kind, non-judgemental OBGYNs around! Something is going on and you need some help. I am understanding of the several fears that must be going through your head and heart right now but you need to get some help. If you have a trusted relative or friend please consider asking them to come with you to the appointment (they can stay in the waiting room if you don't want them in the exam room). Please, I am a healthcare worker and I want the best health for you!!!!
12 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
that should b a reason four you 2 go to the doc wut if there iz some thing wrong at least thay can take of u befour u get worse not to b mean but I HOPE U ARE STILL pregnet I think all the reason u gave 4 not giveing birth to your babby are a cop out GOD would make a way four u to have what you need to care 4 your babby i wus fourteen when i miss carryed my daughtr she wus four & a half monts pre mucher & i was devistaed i got drunk all the tim but i now know she is an angel she never belond to me good luck God bless u
12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |