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Prison has it's own society. I seriously doubt there will be help for this. Your son is in prison, he must have broken a law or laws to get there. Hopefully he will learn from this. Prison is not a resort. It's a tough life and one he should learn from so when he gets out, he will not do anything to get himself put in again. It's too late to play mommy or daddy now (sorry, your name is gender neutral). He's a man who made his choices. Let him learn.
12 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
¤ Prison Activist Resource Center
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12 years ago. Rating: 8 | |
I supplied the link as you have a right to be informed.
>>>Heterosexism is a system of attitudes, bias, and discrimination in favor of opposite-sex sexuality and relationships.
Thanks for a resource, lindilou. My little white boy is facing prison time, and I'm sure he will be subjected to racism and abuse from the get-go. There are gangs of every color; even if he keeps his mouth shut and his eyes down, I've no doubt he'll be harassed by other inmates and the "guards" assigned to keep the peace and everything orderly and safe.
The punishment is the time of imprisonment. Every prisoner deserves to be safe, no matter what kind of crime (s)he has committed.
12 years ago. Rating: 6 | |
That's the bit I meant when I asked if you worried about him like that when he was not in prison.
Keep it in perspective so you don't ruin your own health.
Perspectives.
Drop the guilt too. I know you are wondering if it was something you did in raising him. When he took the reigns to his own life, all that you taught him was left behind as he ran full speed into life. He made the choices, not you. Stop feeling sorry for him. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Nothing in life is a mistake. Everything is exactly as it should be at any given moment. There is a great force in charge here. It's up to your son to allow this experience to make a man out of him. You are mother, you are not mommy. He does not need mommy, just mother and friend. Show no fear and he will not ever have to react to that fear.
He called while I was typing this and I read him exactly what you wrote. He understood and agreed completely.
Again, Colleen, thank you for your concern and your thoughts. I sincerely appreciate them.
I am really sorry to hear about your friend's family. It is heartbreaking; that much I know.
I'm sorry you have to go thru this with your son. Keep the faith. God will guide him.
Ask to see the chaplain and if you get no help, ask to speak to the warden. Just because your son is in prison doesn't mean he has to be treated badly by other prisoners. Keep hammering away. You can also go to your state representative and ask for help. Go to your state capital if you have to. Prison is hard enough as it is. I don't care what your son may have done to be behind bars; fight for him all the way.
12 years ago. Rating: 4 | |
I say this because Skinheads are filled with hatred and rage. This is difficult to fake and faking it as a Skinhead is an enormous insult. So.... what do you think will happen next?