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Her attitude may never change.  Or, one day she might see the light and wake up.  My girls had a very hard time when I met my current husband and one doesn't talk to me at all.  The other daughter told me it was OK for her Dad to date but it wasn't OK for me.... that was when she was 16.  Neither one came to my wedding... the younger one went to a Jack Johnson concert with her Dad and his girlfriend instead.

You are not alone... just be yourself and hope for the best.  You can't make anyone like you... that's a fact Jack... Johnson!

Good Luck and Best Wishes.

I'm thinking that 15 year old needs a little timeout...at bootcamp...say what!!

You cant control a 15 yr. old girl who does not like you. It is up to your Boyfriend to set the rules and enforce them. If he cant do that, then you have to live with it. Maybe some counseling would help.

thats because you are not her mom. she wants her parents to be together. she loves them both unconditionally. she is going to feel resentment. unfortunately i dont know how to deal with it, i went through the same thing, except she managed to break us up. now shes happy.

I don't know what to tell you. Time is all I can offer. Maybe she'll outgrow it.....

Been there, done that. The kid will win. The kids always win because the parents are not mature enough themselves to stand up to the kid's game playing. The parents live on guilt. I know you love him but you will remain miserable as long as he allows his daughter to control your relationship with him. 

Ahhh, guilt is an ugly beast that many divorced parents allow....but this kid is totally out of control.  And if He allows this type of behavior from his daughter You are doomed.

I think you both need to set some rules and stick to them, also support each other in enforcing and telling her that the behavior is not and will not be accepted, perhaps you could give her the option of living with her mother or boarding out at school, I would make it quite clear that you are the adults and it is you that sets the rules

As much as you find this girls behavior disturbing, i can totally understand where she is coming from, as far as she is concerned you came into her dads life where as her mom should have still been in it (not that this is your fault) of course she sees you as a threat to her and her fathers relationship and she will make things difficult for you hoping that you will just go away.Her behavior is her revenge on you. Having said that,she has to realize that it is not all about her anymore, you and her father deserve to be happy, has her father had a talk with her in regards to you being a part of their lives ?Sit her down and talk with her, tell her and show her that you are not the enemy you are there to be her friend and that you are a part of her dads life whether she likes it or not.

I doubt you have done anything to her except be the woman her dad loves instead of her mother.  Just say "Hello" and leave it at that.  Cordial enough. 
I think the REAL problem is her dad.  He could think about the fact that he is allowing his daughter to develop into a b-i-t- .well, you know. SPITTING on her dad (or anyone else) is assault in my book. I'd get that girl into a therapist yesterday.  She is going to have a real rough ride in life with that attitude. 

If someone doesn’t like you (anyone) just kind of ignore them. Don’t play games. Ignore. Walk away.

I haven’t read any comments, I have just had a very hard day and maybe I will change my mind.

These good people may have had good idea. It’s 3:40 am and I give .... I’ll read tomorrow.

Good luck,

This is typical  teenage girl behavior. It sounds like he lets her get away with anything, but he's on a guilt trip that he screwed up her life.  It's not going to get any better, untill she grows up and has a baby of her own. Then, maybe she'll be nice to you. You won't have her living at home with him anymore, but he'll be giving her a   LOT of money to pay her bills. Then, when she gets divorced, or breaks up with her boyfirend,, she'll be back at Dad's house again.

I'd like to meet her...

“I cannot solve the problem because it is not my problem to solve…It is your problem. You are the only person who can solve this and I know you can. Such problems have one main factor…expectations are not met. Consider what you thought could or would happen and did not occur. Write it on a page and all the accessary considerations also. Write “stop" at the end of each line and repeat this process until you can no longer add anything to it. Burn the paper you wrote and write more when ever you like, repeating this process. Eventually you will see that you are responsible for all of the angry thoughts that fill your day with unpleasant thinking. Practice this process with whatever is unpleasant and soon happy thoughts will be the only thoughts you will choose to keep. I have been practicing this for 50 years and everyone who knows or meets me know me as a happy guy.

Fifteen year old girls are given way too much power these days. It is really up to your boyfriend to be a parent. You need to make a very difficult decision.

you need to get to know each other,and spend more time together. :}

My dilemma is that a very close friend of mine has passed away 5 years ago. I have been seeing her husband for 3 years. But the daughter who is 40 years old will not accept me in her dads life. I cant be with him ex. She just had a baby and I couldnt even share the excitement with him, couldnt go to hospital. He doesnt go to her house anymore because I am not allowed. To much to write it all.

This woman is also my goddaughter,  I am beginng to think that I should step away because he nows says he will tell his daughter that he cant be in her or his grandsons life. I do not want to be the cause of that. He has tried to talk to her many times.

I dont want to do this, But I dont want him to miss out watching his grandson grow up. We are 61 and 58.   Any advice

Colleen

You should post this as a new question so more of the members will see it and reply to it.