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    Saying Good-Bye

    The past couple of weeks have had me saying good-bye to people and places I love and won't see again.  I'm not handling it well.  Any advice? 

    +7  Views: 1112 Answers: 13 Posted: 12 years ago
    mycatsmom

    Are you leaving akaQA ?
    valR

    The better part of life could begin at 60. It's your decision to be so.

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    "Don't cry because it's over.  Smile because it happened." 


                                               ~ Dr. Seuss

    Bob/PKB

    I'll try, Dr. C, I'll try.

    Pick up a copy of HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE. It is a very healing book, can be read in one day, allows you to cry and makes you feel better. Trust me..............

    Bob/PKB

    You've recommended this book often, Julie. I'm going to buy a copy tomorrow right after my job interview.
    jhharlan

    It's a good read even if you haven't suffered a loss. I recommend it to everbody...
    mycatsmom

    I read that book.

    life is like a book finish one chapter and start a new one, that does`nt mean you have to forget the previous one though.my gran used to say"chin up boy". good advice but hard at the time..

    Bob/PKB

    thanks, bowlesy; thank gran for me. Chin is up; no one here knows how sad this makes me.

    just keep a positive additude i went to the same thing when i had to move it sucks but life goes on ik its hard tho

    Bob/PKB

    It is, especially when you have ways to keep in touch but know you can't/shouldn't. If you can keep a positive attitude, I will, too!

    Goodbye is a tough word. when you say goodbye, you know you will never see this person again.If you was going to see them, it wouldn't be a "goodbye" rather a "see ya later.I'm sure you will have a lot more people coming into your life that you can say hello to.


     



     


     


     

    Bob/PKB

    Very tough, because I could call or see this friend again. I am looking forward to saying hello to new friends who will be REAL friends. Thank you for understanding how difficult this was; I did not want, but had to make this move.

    Think about the people that you will see.....

    Bob/PKB

    .....I am making plans with others. You just never know what's around the corner. Thanks, daren1

    you may be unable to keep in touch, but remember when things were better and the good that was had,. time to move on, try and stay focused in the" here and now" look at positives knowing things needed to change

    Bob/PKB

    I stumble over here and now so much because I am always looking behind me. I'll remember your good advice, lambshank. Thank you,

    Just keep moving while looking/focusing into the direction you are going toward. Whenever you take brakes (very much needed) you may think and be happy for the good/happy gone times in your life.

    Bob/PKB

    This turning 60 didn't help matters. :o

    If you feel like crying cry. Do think about good things you have had with those friends and in those places, not the things that can't be happening anymore. <3<3<3<3

    Bob/PKB

    Good advice. I just want to get over it; wake up with a smile and a ready-to-go attitude. I think I will be looking for volunteer opportunities; something for someone else.

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    mycatsmom

    That was pretty neat, Lindilou
    Bob/PKB

    Yes, it is. THANK YOU. ;)
    lindilou

    ...and keep smiling babe!!

    It is  hard , but time is a great healer. and there will be "other friends" you will meet. down the road.Try to stay positive and positive things will happen to you when you least expect it.

    Bob/PKB

    Thank you for your answer, Ann. I am counting on those very things....new friends, staying positive (trying), and time. :}

    We need more information in order to help you. Are  you moving ? Did you just take a trip to your old home town, and hate to leave to come back home.? Did you just go on vacation and feel bad about leaving  your new found friends , and the beauty of the place you're vacationing at ?

    Bob/PKB

    None of those. I had been involved in an activity every week for the past 8 months with someone who was a very close friend for 3+ years. We grew apart and at the end of the activity, I knew we would not be in touch with each other to maintain the friendship we'd had My friend was indifferent. It hurt to accept that, and I needed to say good-bye to get my closure, not to just pretend we would see each other again. I am sad, but accept the truth, and just want to get over this.
    mycatsmom

    PKB, That hurts, I know. Some friends are here only for a season.
    I'll always be your friend. :-)

    Take things one day at a time. We are both turning 60 this year and life is still wonderful. Put your heart into everything you do Bob and I know you'll be just fine. Here are some flowers to cheer you on!""

    Bob/PKB

    :D Those are beautiful, witchway, and life still IS wonderful. One day at a time is the only way to take it. THANK YOU.
    Are those pretty roses from your yard?
    witchway

    You're welcome Bob. No, these are not my roses, they are from a friends garden. They are just so beautiful I had to share with you! Have a great day my friend!


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