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Don't bother.  Alcoholics know no boundaries.  It never gets better unless they admit they have a problem and get help.

Telling him not to call you when he has been drinking will not work.

You can't tell him, try though you might. He has to hit his bottom on his own. You might suggest to him that he is on his way......

He sounds like a nice bloke,with a few problems. Just tell him Bob.I mean be direct. It's always worked for me. I haven't had a drink in over 10 years.Before that I had a drinking problem.My wife cured me with directness.If he wants to maintain any sort of relationship with you (Which he obviously does) he will listen.Good luck.

I really think you should know the answer to this P.

Sorry Bob.  You don't want to hear it, I know but, if he follows your request, that will mean...?

What it will mean is that he is (possibly) drinking/drunk anytime he is not around you.  Before long, he may decide that he doesn't like your "rules" and will revert back to what he really wants to do.  You know that you can't fix an alcoholic and HE may drag YOU down a very unhappy road.  Trust your gut!!

I'm with Fishy on this....telling him won't work, not picking up the phone will.

Without knowing his normal state of mind or what he may be capable of. I would tell him straight up "Don't ever call me when your blasted, again". He knows where you live no doubt. So you have to size that possible situation up. 

It's either me or it, pal.

My vote too is don't answer the phone Bob. By doing so, you are giving tacit approval for him to call any time he's had a few under his belt and it could escalate. He knows that you realized he'd been drinking, so if you indulge him again, it could become endless.

Difficult one Bob.If hes had a "problem with alcohol" in the past it may be that just one drink is too many for him.My honest opinion?Ditch him.If he realises he may have a problem and wants to do something about it then back him all the way.But while hes still drinking you will never be his main priority,alcohol is always going to come first.Harsh but true,sorry x

Bob/PKB : Our town came in #1 when there was a survey of what U.S. town had the most women buying cosmetics. I just don't get it.

San Francisco, New York, Las Vegas came in in the Top Ten. (I understand these) Mississippi, Alabama & Louisiana (I understand these too)

Why Oh Why did Fresno come in #1??

I'm sorry to intrude on your conversation. I just didn't know where to put my comment on cosmetics.

Good luck with your drinker. I've had several males in my family who drank. I go along with Chiangmai, "It's either me or it, pal."  I do think that many men who drink are sensitive and kind and that is the hook. After that, it's all down hill. Oh, the stories I could tell.

Sorry Bob. I like you "Why is life hard !! Nobody can really  help GIRL it maybe he does not want to be sober to "face reality .Drink is a go away problem I really  feel for him .He could be a nice guy without drink.I do not intend to "judge people`s faults like Drugs your "Hooked its sad drink is a drug .Because you live in a make believe world Sorry Girl for you just wanting romance "Why not you are nice looking in your "Photo !! My wish for you is I hope you get Mr. Right bless and love you  

I'm here now.  I got tangled up elsewhere. I am currently trying to untangle myself. It is very good to see your font!!