there is this boy who i met in October and we have been unseperable ever since. we became good friends but i only saw him as a friend. i knew he liked me more but i jus ignored that becuase i didnt want to ruin our friendship. we hung out every day and would sit in our dorm lobby and talk all night. i still did not have any feelings for him. December came and we left for christmas break; we didnt talk much during the break but we talked on the phone like once. when we came back to school it was kind of weird, but after like a week we were back to normal. i had a boyfriend now, but it didnt make a difference to me. he started inviting me to his room every night instead of hanging in the lobby and i became good friends with his roommate too. one night while i was in his room he started tweeting things on twitter about me while i sat right next to him. i saw it all on my phone. he was saying things like "why are the good ones always taken?" "right when i think i found someone they have a bf"...i didnt know what to do. about a week later me and my bf broke up and for some reason i really started to like my friend. i told his roommate and he said its about time. i started flirting with him more to let him know i liked him. we had a movie night and everything, and started acting like a couple but we were still just friends. as the weeks went by things started getting wierd. we stopped texting each other but we still hung out everyday..then spring break came around so we seperated. when we came back everything was different. we hung out the first day we got back but then didnt hang out for the rest of the week. we just said a few words to each other when we passed each other. that went on for a week in a half then things got better again, but we didnt hang out in his room anymore. we would just sit outside. That was going on for a week then we had a frat party that weekend and bad things happen. we both had been drinking and one thing led to another. the next day we kinda just acte like it never happen. that wed. he invited me to his room and it happen again. the next day he went home for easter. we didnt talk all weekend and now we are back at school but havent said anything but hi and bye all week. today i texted and said we need to talk. he said ok. i dont really know what i am going to say to him. i really like him now but now im not sure if he just wants to be just friends. any suggestions? p.s. he is very shy when it comes to his feeling and it seems like he doesnt really know how to talk to a girl. he kinda wierd lol but i still like him.
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Wow. "it" has happened twice, and will likely continue to happen. He knows you like him. You aren't sure how he feels.
I have mixed feelings about this....part of me thinks you are a "friend with benefits" person. That is NOT being his girlfriend.
My main question would be who is initiating the time that you spend together? If it is YOU, the "friend with benefits" seems all the more likely. He may seem shy to you, but.....
If HE is the one seeking YOUR company, don't worry, be happy.
13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |
You both seem to be all over the place ,if you want something more permanent to come out of this, you will have to clear the air. You and him should sit down and have a talk about where this friend/relationship is heading, i'm hoping for your sake that you haven't blown any chances of a more serious relationship by having sex with him at such an early stage of getting to know each other. Some guys just hang in there until they get what they want, and then don't wanna know you.If you really like him , have that talk with him and hopefully start afresh.
13 years ago. Rating: 3 | |