i have been having this conversation with my boyfriend for the past 2 months now and he doesnt seem to get why i am like the way i am. i mean he still thinks that i am not trying to turn my life around and act like an adult. 3he thinks that i am relying on everyone too much and that i am not standing on my own two feet. He said that i am lazy and not putting 100% into changing the way i act and trying to turn my life around. i am only 18 and he is 24. what can i do to prove to him that i am trying my hardest to turn my life around but trying to change me before i am ready is just going to ruin our relationship and that it will get me no where as i have not had as much time to grow up as he has. please tell me what i should do. i dont want to lose him but i cant keep on having him have a go at me for not being like him basically
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You certainly do not type like a "dope"!!Anyone who criticizes and tries to control who you are or how you are sounds like a bit of a control-freak with issues of immaturity.In my mind if anyone is not willing to get in my shoes on my dieing day...well...why on earth would I allow them to walk in my "living" shoes??Live your own life and be the best "YOU" that you can be...we do not all mature on the same day!!!
12 years ago. Rating: 20 | |
Since you have mentioned it a couple of times, I must ask what you mean by "turn my life around"? Do you have an issue that he or others, might be concerned about?
12 years ago. Rating: 17 | |
You need a new boyfriend that accepts you as you are. Why would you want to stay with someone who can only criticize you?! You are still high school age...can't he find a girlfriend his own age, or maybe it is that one his own age would tell him what he could do with his negative opinions. Do you want to spend the rest of your life listening to him telling you that you're not meeting his expectations?! You need to find someone that is not so domineering!
12 years ago. Rating: 16 | |
CONTROL FREAK ALERT!! :-¬...
I`D SAY BE CAREFUL ...He is lowering your self esteem/self worth..and I fear you`ll continue to date similar guys..or you`ll lower your expectations of how men..and other people will treat you in the future!...You are still just 18..and still discovering who YOU are as well as what life holds!..Please don`t let this guy continue to run you down!...I`d dump him,however hard that is to do!...He may well then realize that he`s being the DOPEY ONE!!...And hopefully will learn that his actions need reviewing ...and that he needs to treat people better in the future!!
Good Luck!!
millie xx
12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
i am being myself but he thinks that i need to act more like an adult. what does it mean that the way i act and the way i see and go through life is what needs to grow up??
12 years ago. Rating: 11 | |
If any of those are among your problems, causing you to be dopey and not adult enough...well, good for you. Don't change anything.
P.S. You will find many, many good responses here, stacie029, and I hope you take their answers seriously. This is a very caring group of people who would not steer you in the wrong direction. Most of us are way older than you and are answering with the sincerity we would give to a child of our own....and none of us want to see our children hurt by anyone or anything.
A typical example of someone trying to turn a person into some one else than what they are.
The old story a woman gets married and spends ten years changing her husband only to say "You are not the man I married"
12 years ago. Rating: 10 | |
By the way can you run through how to add photos to my comments please?
I had it all worked out ages ago but have forgot.
I click the little green tree then the rectangle appears and I click upload.
This gives me a browse option so I click and get the photo I want to send, click it and it gets surrounded by a white square.
I click open under the photo area then upload on the rectangle and I get "connecting" but photo does not come up ????????????? Thanks.
If you are displaying a carefree attitude like most 18 year olds do, I'm thinking he is jealous of you.Just be the best person you can be, don't let him crush your spirit.
12 years ago. Rating: 9 | |