c-dawg
14 Answers
doolittle
Best answer!
Why are you clingy? Describe 'clingy'...because I know what I feel is "clingy' in a relationship...but you might define it differently. I guess what matters is she thinks you are clingy.
clingy can be fear based- you are afraid she will cheat on you or leave you for another guy.
clingy can be based on 'faulty thinking' and emotions- I will die with out her. She likes her friends more than me. We are supposed to want to be with each other all of the time. We have to be together all of the time.
It can also be based on power and control- you don't want her to be with other friends so you try to stop her. You want her to depend on you and much as you do on her for love, security, hapiness,etc. (the last sentence also falls into false thinking).
Here is something to sincerely read and think about. In any relationship, even marriage, you will never be "happy" if you depend on your partner to do and be 'everything'...Happiness is an inside job. You choose to be happy with a situation or un-happy with a situation. You choose to be happy with who a person is and what that person does. You choose to trust or not trust. etc. Check your thinking and your motives... a lot. Emotions "happy, etc" shouldn't guide your thinking, it should be the other way around.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
caddam
The clingy person is insecure, incomplete, only part of a whole person. They usually don't give much to a relationship they mostly take from it
A Clingy person usually end up acting desperate and weak, which they are.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 12 | |
Ducky
lambshank
leeroy
YO C-dawg, It's the easiest way to push a woman away! You have to learn to be more secure with yourself. Affectionate is good, caring is great, but clingy is definitely not good. Once you're more secure with yourself, you'll understand that if it doesn't work out there are many more fishlets in the sea... That confidence actually will attract even more women to you. Good luck, and go out there and get some confidence!
| 12 years ago. Rating: 9 | |
figtree3
Star walker
paintedturtle
jhharlan
Chiangmai
ed shank
fjoel
Bob/PKB
Clingy as in touching all the time to establish your turf, territorial when others are around, or afraid to let her out of your sight because you don't trust her? Kinda thinking that if you are out of sight, you'll be out of mind, or that you aren't "good enough" for her?
None of those sound like good reasons to cling. Pity the both of you.
| 12 years ago. Rating: 5 | |
mycatsmom
