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I would reflect on, Why did I allow myself to have unprotected sex with someone I did'nt know so well.

Walk away.  He just changed your life and not in a good way. 

It is a crime to spread a communicable disease. It is the same as assault and you have evidence so if he has money, that’s yours also and medical bills are all his too. Prosecute the crime.  

Report him to your county health department or even the CDC, if possible.  I would also put up informational posters around town about him and do it anonymously so you aren't subjected to defamation charges.  Other women NEED to know about him as well, as long you are positive it was him that infected you!!   Good luck...................

Everyone has stated good points and concern for your condition is with us.   But in the old country, the tight communities,  we had ways of dealing with a person like this.  He had to  live with the a torment like the victim.   I  think a  horse with this condition is called a gelding.  Punishment by the law in the USA might be 'The Lindsay Lohan' 100 hours community service and 30 days in jail with 25 suspended.   That punishment doesn't fit the crime. This makes my blood boil !

That was really a very rotten thing he did to you. I really don't know what to say in regards to this, other than I hope you talk to someone from a clinic, and perhaps get a referal to talk with someone. Sometimes talking with other people dealing with a similar predicament helps you find your own way through it. It really does.

Other than that, in good conscience, I couldn't tell you to do anything that would risk getting you into trouble or cause problems later on. Sometimes we also need to look at our own role in things like this, as there were several bad decisions made, and he wasn't the only that made one. Life is what it is, and bad decisions have their costs for anyone who makes one. This isn't perhaps what you'd like to hear at the moment, but hopefully the realization of what I'm saying puts you on the path of healing. I say this, as you need to accept things as they are at this point, leaving you open to finding away to deal with it in a positive way, being able to move beyond this point.

It's not the end of the world. You'll just have to adapt to a different way of dealing with what your life now presents you with. If there is one thing you can be thankfull for, it would be that at least it wasn't AIDS. I wish you all the best.

Check with a lawyer to see if there is anything that can be done.  No matter what, your life has changed forever, and no amount of money can make you any happier now.  Some mistakes cause a lifetime of regret.

Better marry him because now you're the carrier.. Maybe you can join a herpes help group? Never know, you might find someone new  

You really have no one to blame but yourself, why didn't you stop and think that maybe this guy could have a STD, a few moments of pleasure is now your worse nightmare, count yourself lucky it could have been AIDs.

Herpes can 'live' on a cervix without symptoms....just an FYI, and something to ponder...could you have gotten it from someone else?

It's the risk you take when not having safe sex. You have no idea who gave it to you. You could have been infected for years and not have an out break.

I know it's upsetting,it could be so much worse, be thankful it wasn't HIV.

Revenge is never the answer.

If you can prove this person has herpes, and is having unsafe sex, you have a case. Can you prove it? It's next to impossible. Has he infected others? If you spread rumors you can be sued.

Perhaps he didn't know he had it and you could have had protected sex until you got to know him well and eventually have fallen in love with him then you could have had unprotected sex with him and still caught it you can't really win with such a disease can you it's just  an unfortunate chain of events

I don't think anything legal can be done to him (mental revenge is healing) but, you got caught.  Life lesson and I'm sorry it was learned this way. Educate yourself in dealing with herpes and deal with it.....

Telephone him and let him know that you have herpes and he should get tested. 
Don't have any further contact with the guy.
Learn about herpes and how to control it.
Advise any partner that you have herpes, he should wear a condom, and/or shower immediately after sex.  Have condoms on hand.  :D

I really don't know how to comment on this issue, other than the consequence of our action is sometime hard to deal with,you need to accept what has happen, and learn from it, It might of been a way of staying away from people with infected illness,worst case could have been AID.

Take out a 1/4 page add in the biggest local newspaper and announce his disease...

Ducky

I smell a lawsuit!

Ducky

Slightly smaller lawsuit! :)

That would be the last time I shake HIS hand again.

Dunno maybe run over him with a bull dozer many many times just to watch the wheels go round and round......not gonna happen though.

country bumpkin

Missed you on here, Darci. You've been gone way too long.

Ducky

I missed you too Darci but I thought maybe it was just me missing you, missing me, missing you...if you know what I mean...and by now, you probably do...know what I mean, I mean. Frightening isn't it? LOL!!!

Ducky

((( <3 ))) heart hug

Hold a grudge for the rest of my life, then die old and bitter.

Kill him! just kidding. The right answer is NOTHING.

Maybe hire Bobbit?

Kill him. Not really. Report him to the CDC

report him to public health.

"don't Thank him!! He left you a "Gift to remember him by!! "WHAT happened to "Safe SEX"?

Ducky

It's only safe...ER.

Find someone with aids and fix them up together.

It absolutely needs reporting to the appropriate health authorities, and should he visit social website pages, I think I may just mention it there too