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Sounds like your suffering from deep depression, go see your Doctor.

Rick...Often, depressed people feel  "permanently stuck" in their awful circumstances and that is just not true.  Changes can be made...with help. Your boss, unlike you, does not expect that you will know everything immediately.  What does he expect?  He wants his new employee to come to work with a great attitude, do his best job while at work, and eventually learn the job. As long as you are doing those things, you will have a job. You need some help to get through this severe depression that you are suffering.  Please listen to what everyone here is telling you.  Call your doctor, get in to counselling, get some medication...help is so available to you but you have to ask! 

Hey Rick, I,ve been where you are now, believe me when I say things will get better,one morning you,ll wake up and say to yourself " wow, I woke up " never expected that, then you,ll realise that the only way is up my man, be positive for you and your family, negative depresses everybody,not preaching to you ,but it worked for me, I,m doing f all at the moment myself but the positive is still there, keep safe ma man, you listening?..R.

As written above, see a real shrink and get on meds. They'll see you through the rough spots and someday you won't need them any more. The world turns baby, sometimes good, or bad, bad, good , bad, bad, bad, good, good, bad. The world turns. Get on meds now!

 Rick.....I know it is easier said than done, but try and pull yourself away from all this negative thinking, depression thrives on negative thoughts. Look at things more in a positive way.Have you considered taking some medication to get you through this rough patch ?

Ed is  100 % right. Its the state of our economy that causes hardship and frustration.and you are a victim as millions of other people are. Try some Vitamin B stresstabs. they will help to stop your thoughts from racing out of control for now. Try to be positve, despite all the hardship, for negative thoughts have negative consequences. It seems, our economy is slowly but surely on a rebound. Hang in there. Better days are coming!

I felt a little bit like you, Rick just befoer Christmas , everything seemed to be piling up, i was lucky i took my three week break and it did wonders for me, i felt refreshed for 2012, you sound a far worse than me, hang in their mate and see a doctor.

I also went through years of depression several years ago and look at me now, couldn`t stop me with a bullet.

See your doctor and get to a Psychiatrist, not a Psychologist a genuine died in the wool psych.

I went for 2 years, took the meds and whoopee life came back.

We all pulled for you in you search for a job and don`t you dare let us down.

This forum is full of people who really do care about others so get off your backside and act.

Rick, if you need to talk and just vent you can call me, my number will be in your e-mail. Hang in there and know you are not alone and you do have friends. 

Dude, things are s*** all over. You didn't create this bad situation, your a victim of it. Your not the only one who feels this desperation nowadays. Relationships also become strained especially when finances become an issue. However well intentioned we all are, your still going to feel pain. Don't lose your inner self, if you weren't a descent and caring man, you wouldn't be feeling this guilt right now. You know when this FU economy turns around, your life will also take a turn for the better. I know it's easier said than done, but hang in there a little longer, accept what you have no control over. Whenever I encountered a situation I felt I couldn't get out of, I would say to my wife, in six months we'll look back on today and say "how did we get through that"?  I also have a car old enough to vote. Things will get better.

Ducky

It's amazing sometimes, looking back, that a person COULD get through it all...no wonder people are more "mellowed out" as they age!

Talk to God and tell Him, I know it works and He can change your mood and outlook, 57's not old (O, to be 57 again) they know older people can be more dependable. Talking to a doctor can't hurt either. Also eat healthy.

Good luck and be positive.

Rick....sadly the famous words..."I think there for I am" really stand true in life. If you think you can't do something then it becomes real. Is there no way that you can set small goals to perfect one thing at a time with your job? Can it be a challenge rather than something you allow to beat you up. I am a single mom with two boys that don't appreciate anything I do no matter how much effort i put out to keep our heads above water. I know what it's like not to feel appreciated. About the car...so what if it's twenty years old...you could be riding a bike instead, you already have more than some people have. I'm 42 and still pay another mans mortgage, I could look at my job and feel I could have been more but instead I learned to like what I do and do it well. I have nothing really but the pride in who I am in life. The truth is that it's not what you have in life, it's how you went about getting it that makes you a good person. I know what you are saying about feeling like the future is bleak but it's always bleaker for someone else. There is much love for you on this sight and I'm glad you feel safe in reaching out to your friends. Thank you for letting me have the honour of holding you up. Much love and a long hug...Lora

Hang on Cleveland. Change your negative thinking. FOCUS ON YOUR JOB! You can doing.

Help yourself and God will help you too.

I know how you feel too, but like everyone says here try to be positive, look at other people there are thousands who feel the same. Life is really tough at the moment for most where ever you are, unless your are a rich banker or have worked in a job with a good pension at the end. If you have good health it's something to be positive about, just try to think life is never as bad as it seems. Good luck mate. 

“Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.”

Look for the silver lining, ClevelandRick. Good luck to you.

Rick...I had to come back.  I know that you find it  impossible to "cheer up", "think positively", "change your attitude".  I KNOW THAT!!!!  You must get to a doctor, get on medication, get counselling and do it NOW.  Don't wait and keep struggling while trying to "be strong."  That will not work!  Counselling and medication are, in most cases, temporary measures and sooooooo very helpful, you won't believe it until you try it.   Do yourself the biggest favor ever....today!

You know where I am coming from Rick... and everyone else here.  I know you can make positive changes.  Take everyone's good advise.

xo Fishy

Hang in there, Rick.   And keep in contact with us. We've been wondering where you are----. at least I have been . For every negative thought  you have, turn it around into a positive thought. Just keep thanking God you have a job. You can look for another job while  you're working . It's always better to be working when you go to job interviews. It looks good Maybe you can go into business for yourself.  For depression, go for long walks. It helps mentally and phyically. Don't try to handle  your depression by drinking or doing illegal drugs. You'll just get more depressed and might wind up in jail.

Rick  ....there are some really heartfelt suggestions from your friends above.  This economy has a bunch of us in the dumps.   I know its easy to say BUT,  since your mind can only think of one thing at a time do your best to look on the light side.   You are better than you think you are.  In many cases we're our own worst enemy.  So keep your chin up.

Best Wishes to you.

Hey Rick,I know what it's like to have a bucket of shit thrown over you over & over again.But don't let 'em beat you mate. One thing that I have always said is "My sun will still rise in the East".Put your head down & your arse up & get stuck into your job.Give it everything & tell everybody else to get stuffed & cop it sweet. Get on with your life & stop worrying about everybody elses.

Oh baby.... I am so sorry.... I am right there with you... You are not alone..... xoxoxoxoxo....

Hi Rick!  Is this the job that you were worried about getting, and was asking for good luck on your interview? Now, you're worried about keeping it. Or, is this a different job? Either way, YOU GOT A JOB. I agree 100% with every word Umbriel said. You was hired because your boss felt that you can do the job. Now, you have to have confidence in yourself. Quit thinking negative. Think positive. Keep positive people in your life. I don't know your home life, but I believe everyone has felt unappreciated at one time in their life. Tell your family members how you feel.  You say you are 57 years old. You didn't mention any health problem. Do you have health problems that is keeping you from enjoying life? Well, I do and I'm not even 50. But I'm going to keep thinking positive. 

Remember the saying: There is always someone worst off than you!

Like Ducka I also am compelled to have another bite at the cherry.

Do NOT feel ashamed to go to a pysch or take medication.

When I was at the bottom of the "Black Hole" my doctor said "If you had a bad heart and I said to take these pills everyday will allow you to live a long life you would say I have a bad heart and this will help"

The same applies to you Depression is a medicaly recognised problem and as such is treatable the same as any other medical problem.

Got a tooth ache go to the Dentist.

Got bad eyesight go to the Optomertrist.

Got Depression go to, well you get the idea.

This too shall pass.

Rick, You have a case of Depression. I know it all too well. I think everything has been covered by our friends at akaQA so all you need to do now is follow the advice. I think you start with your General Practioner and then they refer you to a Psychiatrist. 

I see my Psychiatrist once a month for what they call Anxiety Disorder. After my first visit of about twenty minutes I continue on seeing him for a prescription. (He has to earn a living too) My Blue Cross doesn’t pay much of his bill but it helps. You gotta get to the doctor. 

I hope you’ll stay in touch with us. You got a lot of good friends here. We all do.

It's trite to say "hang in there", but there it is, and I mean it (DON'T GIVE UP).  You DO have empathy, sympathy, and support from everyone here, so come often for that comfort. 
It's not going to make you feel elated, but may I suggest you think about what is tolerable in your life....the car may be 20, but if it is getting you to work and back, you're better off than two of my friends who don't have any transportation. Your home life sucks, but you have a roof over your head for the time being (drive by some of the tent cities). As for the job....you HAVE one....you are on time and don't screw around on the clock. You're doing your best and improving. Is someone else beating up on you or are you just being hard on yourself?  (I do that sometimes).
It is hurtful and frustrating and demoralizing to be in a relationship that has deteriorated as much as yours apparently has; your  self-esteem at an all-time low and wondering what the heck did I do (or not do) to deserve being treated like crap. Obviously, those people are pretty disappointed with themselves and using you as a scapegoat.  Consider the source.
You are loved, Cleveland Rick. And you will survive.  But DO see a doctor about the depression, You are in my prayers (for what it's worth).   (Maybe you can set up a "chat" thing with some of the members here you feel you communicate with best. I'm sure any of us would be happy to have 1:1 with you.)

My dear Rick I am so sorry you are depressed I havnt had such a good month but never mind its you that we have to get you back on the right track first of all do you know why you are depressed if you do that is a start you must see a doctor Rick and get on top of this before it eats you away you are in my thoughts and preyers please see a doctor bless you xxxx

Lots of great advice from your online friends Rick! I always try to get out of the house and make sure not to isolate myself, this will help a lot. Also if you start working out that will help fight off depression as well. I think being active is the best advice I could give you, it's something that works for me.

I don't care how your family treats you or anyone else, you a great person Rick don't forget that. I originally come from Ohio and it can be depressing in the winter, get out there and keep yourself busy. Hope you feel better soon and I will add you to  my prayers. Go out and do some things that make you happy. Take care...

Lots and lots of good advice ,I think you will take from it what is needed and the rest will fall to the floor. Now some small advice from me ,depression is a chemical thing so do some homework at the natural foods store find some herbs that elevate mood. Change your diet . No matter how bad things are for you ,someone on the next street over has it worse . No point on worrying about the job ,do your best and if it dont work out so what ! I am 60 with a life time of experience and the world has changed so much I feel like a moron with all the technology changes . So feeling overwhelmed is just a every day thing . No big deal ,fact is if nothing is on fire and no one is shooting at you ,its all good ,just a adventure . God is always hiring ,Just make yourself available and show up . He has a way of helping those on his team . I wish you good luck . A small word in parting  I have made my way with arts and crafts items for 25 years not once was a job a necessity . I did not have any money dont have a store ,all I need is a table, product and a crowd thats a business for me ,all it takes . I can pretend to be anybody I wish to for a few hours . No one knows you ,so who cares when you are selling if you are Bubba ,or any body else for that matter . Imagination is the key those who have it have a life of adventure  others have jobs each to their own .                     Bill

Rick,It may sound strange but I do know exactly what you are going thru with you wife.

I'm terribly sad to say it mate but you are right,you will have to go to save yourself.

I have seen first hand other relationships ruined by those bloody pills.

I had a guy who worked for me whose wife would turn up at work & demand money & whatever from him which was very humiliating for him. She was very abusive & by the time he got home from work she was usually  zonked out on the pills.

I do not want to put ideas in your head but that poor kid eventually took his own life.

All that I can suggest for a happy outcome is what I have already said or try one last time to talk to her about getting some serious councilling.

Good luck mate.I'm thinking about you.

hey Rick.I noticed your post about being a bit down in the dumps is 3 weeks old. So,how are you doing now mate? I hope everything brightened up with your new job & that you are feeling better.