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dopey sorry to hear about your poor Mom what a great age she is I will prey for her and you please be strong for her as you need her and she needs you even sometimes it wont show god bless you both xxx

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your mom. My mom was living with me when she had Alzheimers and I know it it very difficult to deal with. May God blessyou both.

You got it dopey, I have and will keep her in my prayers, keep us updated on her condition. My friend has a similar situation with his mother and she is now in a convalescent home because he could no longer take care of her. He said the only comfort in this is that she is happy, she no longer realizes where she is, but she is happy...  I don't know if that may help you, but God will always take care of us no matter what the situation or conditions are. God bless.

sure ill do it for you.

Consider it done...My mom is 93 and I understand at least SOME of what you are talking about.  

Dopey,this must be so terribly difficult for you.ive lived and worked with dementia sufferers.What support are YOU getting?Dont be afraid to ask for help,you may need it my friend xx.Take care

Know you are in my prayers as well as in my thoughts..................

My thoughts and prayers are with both your mother and you, dopey.  Whether or not, you are certain of "faith", I believe that prayers for you, from others, still work.  I understand what your concerns and worries are, as I went through it also, with my mother...very heartbreaking!

My prayers are with you and your Mom. Know that both of you are well-loved! Blessings!

Our prayers are with you and may she feel better.  We pray for you to be strong at this difficult time. Look after yourself.

yes i a

m praying for ur mother 

I am praying for her godbless.

Consider it done !!!! Prayers for you both !!!!! May you both receive the strength you need for these days . Iam sorry to see this news ,and hope that you are granted some wonderful moments of clarity during these days . All my best  dopey !!!!!!! The Bluesman .

Count me in.

Many thanks to you all - she seems somewhat better - seems to vascilate with this memory thing. So much going on or should I say wrong in my life just now and as - I may not have a certain faith as Ducka says but when I get tot the end of my tether I hope the Big Man is there. Footsteps in the sand. Thanking you all again so much. 

Ducky

My mother has since passed away but I did have to put her in a home. Dopey, I want to tell you that it is difficult to do that, BUT, and this is important, although you will feel sad about doing that, it is still such a relief as you know that there is someone looking after her, 24 hours a day. You will feel more rested and still be able to see her as your time allows. It definitely relieves some stress so don't feel guilty about doing it. Also, they DO vascillate, one day seeming very "normal" with no memory problems at all, the next day, you hardly know who that person is, sitting in front of you. Probably what helped me the most, was learning all that I could about dementia/alzheimers disease, so that there are fewer surprises. Sadly, the day may come, when she no longer knows who you are...brings tears to my eyes thinking about how many times I saw that happen to caregivers. Stangely enough, my mother remembered me right to the last day but the nurses were shocked by that. (With other symptoms, I was not so fortunate.) Do what you think is the best for you, so that "YOU" don't crumble under the pressure. I hope this helps somewhat dopey. (( hug ))

Dopey. sometimes people refuse help, because they are afraid to loose theire independence. Your mom is 91 yrs. old and sometimes forgets things, like we all do at times. I am glad she is better than you thought she was. I had a neighbor and when she was in her nineties, her mind was still very sharp. She died from a cold. So please dont worry so much and take care of yourself. I know you mentioned your decline started 6 yrs. ago after someone told lies about you. You should try to get that monkey of your back. You will feel so much better physcialy and mentally. . Love and prayers, Ann

You are carrying a heavy burden Dopey caring looking after Mum .At 91 some age .But thats what we do I was very close to my Mum she was 82 but wanted to go ,to see her sisters young brother and her mum dad .She got her wish on Christmas day I did not cry because she with her love ones .she loved me my sisters and brothers as mums do .bless you and that lovely lady .

Dear Bill, So funny you should say that - There will be I believe some very good Karma this year from about the end of January for everyone - For many this will be a relief because although I speak of my troubles it has not been easy for many I know and where I was always the strong one - seem so alone now here  - two of my dearest friends dying these last two years along with everything else , I guess everything so personal seemed to be worse perhaps than it is I spent a whole week or so asking "What is this life - why are we here???" so very earnestly.   I have to recover my positive feelings seemed to have lost my last scrap of dignity here.  The very best to you - I'll be thinking of you too. Miri. 

Ducky

I've also learned over the years, that being exhausted from the stress of any difficulty, makes it seem 10 times worse. I said during one long "episode" in my life, "Oh, if only I could get just one decent night of sleep."

Hi Dopey.It makes a lot of sense what you said about being reluctant to ask for help,it is difficult ,i know that.Its an awful situation youre in though.Whos looking after you?My love,moral support and thoughts are with you.Take care x

Hi Dopey. My mom is 90 and I can feel for you. I am still so close to her and dread to loose her. I have prayed for you both. God is our only hope and He cares.

Yes I know , Like points here I have some good karma from the universe  coming so on your behalf Ill be asking for some of it for you . All my best    Bill

Chiangmai thank you so much - Mum seems better today more upbeat. We will be ok I guess - I'll just have to get stronger. I have always been interested in Buddhism - have some little Buddhas around the flat and saw a temple in Sri Lanka. I have also some books two of which "The Wisdom of China" by Lin Yutang, "Buddhism for Today" (Alec Kennedy) for the Western Buddhist Order and two most beautifully illustrated children's books "Yebbin A Guest from the Wild" "The Silent Traveller" by Chiang Yee and "Dabbitse" by Chiang Yee first printed in New York and London in the forties. thank you for your kindness again - such a beautiful picture of your? little one with the puppies - such a joy.

I just did, both Christian and Budhist prayers.  I hedged my bet for her.  This way she is covered!