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You should not attend without being invited. You should find out why you did not get an invite. Maybe another family member can check into it for you. Maybe your invite got lost in the mail. 

Don't go if you don't wish to.  You don't need an excuse, especially if you didn't get the invitation.....

Getting invited 3 days before the wedding ,tells me you were just an after thought.Let them know you wont be attending the wedding as you were not given enough notice to prepare financially for your clothing and gift.As you said,you don't want to go anyway,so use what i have said as your excuse.

Don't jump to conclusions. maybe it is  a  very small and rushed event. I would not go if I did not recieve an invitation. Send then a card and a check, Say you wish you could have been there, and wish them luck and  good fortune and call it good. That lets everyone off  the hook and starts no trouble. It sounds like it is a very unorganized affair to me,

They havn,t been very respectful to you, you are under no obligation to go, you don,t want to go, so don,t go, send a nice good luck card, nothing else, and let that be the end of it , they don,t care much so why should you.

The wedding of a Great Niece is pretty far down on the Totem Pole for me.

Me ????   I wouldn't go.

Weddings are usually invitation only. This could have been an oversite or it could be that they were restricted to so many guests on the list because of location or money. But it is perfectly correct of you to send a gift if you would like to or a card of congratulations to the new couple.

I would not go if it were me, especially since you don't want to go in the first place. Send them a nice card and you'll feel better about it.

I was invited by telephone, in words through my mother. As I said, three days before the event. But I think it's disrespectful at least. I do not even have time to buy clothes and gift. But I'm not sure, am I too proud in this situation?

it's always a great idea to not do what you do not want to do.  you intuition is telling you something.  listen to it. it's kind of like God talking to you.  be true to yourself.

I wouldnt go either

Thank you all for the answers. Yesterday my mother has received an invitation for both of us, they gave it personally, without any apologies. The wedding will be thematic, with the costumes that we haven't. So we decided that just go to the official registration to give to a new couple a check and flowers and to wish them happiness. I'm still feeling upset, but now I know that it's justified. Thank you again, I appreciate your help.

"I know that family doesn't want to see me".  I am quoting you, kaa.  Maybe  you would like to explain this statement, just a little further.  Could there be more to this situation than what you are telling us???   My gut tells me that there is.  Sorry that I'm not as empathetic as some of the others here, but I need more detail before I assume that the blame is all theirs and has nothing to do with you.

" Inquire, as to why! " you haven't received an invitation, '' You & I know how the mail can be, " Good Luck! & I hope your able to attend." You should attend! (she's) your great niece (man) ! " :)

No!