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My sincere sympathy to you.  You have to be devastated.  It has been less than one month since you lost your husband;  I don't know how you could have even started moving through the grief process.  I hope that you have family and friends to lean on at this point, perhaps a clergyman, and, as Nene43 suggested, a grief therapist or group where you can find some solace. 
Don't think you need to "get over" your husband's death any time soon.  Take care of yourself, though, and take baby steps in establishing your life as a widow/single woman.  

Not all advice is the same for everyone. My suggestion would to seek a Grief Group I am a widow. I found one at a local church. If you feel too shy or embarrased, seek help from a grief counselor. In my case the group worked just fine. You do have to make a commitment to attend all meetings. God Bless You.  Also, Prayer Changes Things.

Pick up a copy of HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE, it will walk you through the grieving process and allow you to FEEL.  It's will allow you to cry over your loss but will also instill hope.....

My deepest condolences to you. When my husband died, I thought I had died with him. It still seems like a part of my soul is gone.. All I can say is go out with your friends and family when they ask you too. Don't turn down invitations. When your spouse dies, if you were close to him, you feel like you lost your identity and you don't know who you are.It may seem like the initial grief will never stop, but it will finally start  to ebb some.  And  you gradually build up a new identity. If you don't work , get  a job, if  you're able to. If you don't want to work, do volunteer work. It helps a lot to get out of the house. You will always miss him very much. My husband died  in April 2,000 of metastatic bladder cancer. It went to his bones, and it was on many of his organs.

You never get over losing a loved one. You just learn to cope. Its only been a month, so the grieving period is still there. People are probably leaving you alone by now. Now you have this time to yourself and you feel so along. But, you are not alone. If you need to talk to someone, then do that. You can join a support group for widows, seek a grief counselor, or talk to a clergyman. Just  don't isolate yourself.  

I know this does not take away your pain but I am truly truly sorry for your loss.  Grief has many stages and each person goes through them differently.  If you feel comfortable with doing so there are some good grief support groups look for one in your area that deals with loss of a spouse.  Some hospitals even have them, some churches, etc.  It hurts badly I know just a thought about the group sometimes it helps if you find a really good one to be around people that are going through the process too.  My thoughts and heartfelt sympathy goes out to you.

Realize that you don't get over it.  You can talk out loud to them when you are alone.  Think about their spirit being with you.  Time is what you must use to get though it.

Best to find a convention that you can go to out of state or a group trip to a new area.  You will be away from the home place and you can think of this as a vacation for you alone. 

Be upfront and tell people you are alone now.  Get the gref out of your head.

Sorry about your loss. Yes it is hard to deal with this but life has to go on. You should not brood over it because it will depress you further. Deal with the paper work, accounts, insurance etc. Be around friends and family AND talk to people. No need to feel shy or embarassed because this happens to or will happen to every family. Looking at his things etc will keep you thinking about him. Give away what u can to charities. Regain control, be brave and keep praying always.

Our Best wishes are with you

Thank you itsmee, and yes, your kind comments have definitely helped.  Thanks again to everyone who answered; I am very touched and just by reading your comments, I already feel better and finally see a glimmer of hope.  I am happy to have discovered this forum.  Take care.

get over, don't know. work through yes. with time an understanding that it is a  prosess.  just like anyother. with a starting point and a finnish. hopefully one day you can rejoyce in the fact that all the struggles in this life have now ended for your beloved. an know that they would want you to be happy with the life you have yet to live.. 

My condolences to you!  When we loose a part  of  ourself, can be very painfull, no easy fix,we pray that God is in control, just haft to hang in there...We all haft to leave sometime,no choice in the matter.

Mammy Sylvie, my heart so goes to you. Incredibly difficult thing to have to deal with!  Praying for strength and comfort for you. --April, 2012?  Surely there is something happening now that can of service to you in coping with your grieving and loss.  Hospitals usually have group grieving therapy sessions ongoing or can give you info about them in the area. Think it would be a good idea to begin that. I've seen it work wonders, along with loving family and friend support. Very best to you.