Have you ever heard of a one sided conversation? Or a one sided argument? Well, its very aggravating. My husband sits there and will not respond he stairs into space. No matter how I try to communicated he remains silent. After awhile of me saying I why don't you say something, anything, he claims that I am an abuser and I want to upset him. What is he trying to do and whats the reasoning here?
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The tone of your voice and the expression of irritation can instantly create the turtle effect from your husband. I find with my kids if I try to cool down before I express my feelings and go about it in a gentle way rather than aggressive, we actually get a conversation going rather than the blank stares. First I ask if it's a good time to talk so they are prepared that something is up. Then we sit down and I try to keep the conversation about how it makes me feel when.....I also tell them that I love them during the conversation so there is no need to go into a protective state. Maybe if you don't go into an aggressive attack mode, your husband won't prepare for the worst. Keep in mind he is not your child but your partner when you need to discuss something with him.
12 years ago. Rating: 0 | |
Sometimes it is the substance of what you want him to listen. If it is something he does not like and you should by now know what, it can only infuriate him. Talk what he also likes. example- if does not like petty gossips, dont bother him. So there is nothing wrong with silence because that must give you a message. I am not saying He is Mr.Clean, but try analyzing why.
12 years ago. Rating: 0 | |